Is your Personality Ruining your Relationships?

Without even reading this I have to ask how can one's personality ruin a relationship? You are who you are and different personalities are part of that. To say that your personality is ruining a relationship implies that you should change who you are to please who you are desiring to date. A more healthy approach would be to consider that you are not persuing compatible people. Meh, what do I know.

[QUOTE=happiness1212;275178]I want someone that will bring out the best in me and me in him. Someone who will see my faults as challenges and not weakness. A manwho is able go recognize me as the weaker sex and be gentle. Who will be able to recognize my strenghts andbring them to the table, who iscomplimentary not because i'm weak but because God made me to want and themthem. Because whenI feel loved i could love freely not in fear. I want someone to be able to listen not just hear what i'm saying and receive the same in return. We live in a cruel world we need our partners to join usin creating ahaven of love and safety.[/QUOTE] Happiness, my dear girl. It sounds like you are projecting your own faults as weaknesses. Men are just doing what comes naturally which is taking advantage of the victim. It is sad but true. Also, very WRONG, in case any jerks are looking for justification. As a woman, I am showing my love for you by telling you that no man is ever going to love and respect you unconditionally unless you stand up for yourself. You have to bring your own strengths to the table for yourself. Not for a man. Your haven of love should be within yourself and you should be extremely careful whom you share that with. Most men are selfish dogs that will tear you apart if they know you don't have the good sense to care for yourself. Remember, we DO live in a cruel world, and it is up to you alone to protect your heart. Don't let fear make you believe that a man is going to make everything better. You have your own two legs any good man wants a girl who can stand on hers, not one who is constantly riding on his back. He will start to hate you, then he will start to be mean to get you off of him. You should read a book by Sherry Argov entitled "Why Men Marry Bitches" While I don't cotton too well to the term "Bitches" it is a very poignant and valid book. I think it would help you understand why you are dealing with these issues. "He's just not that into you" is also another good book that helps explain some of the things guys do when they are trying to hold on to a free ride or have their cake and eat it too. It was also a movie but I highly suggest the book. It goes into details about the motives and I'm sure it will lift your spirits and make you laugh. Don't lose hope, happiness, there is a right guy out there for you. You can do so much better. Accept and appreciate what you have now and move towards a brighter future for yourself.

I don't know about this one? They may give you more than you can handle..... My brother may still be holding a grudge since our last 20 years ago fight? :) (j/k)