Your Photo Gallery: Tell the Story of your Life

Your eHarmony photo gallery doesn't just show your matches what you look like; it tells the story of you: Your interests, your priorities, your humor. Does your gallery represent the real you? If not, here's how it can.

Your Photo Gallery: Tell the Story of your Life
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Telling your story is much more than your thoughtful profile answers or your witty prose, it’s the entire package of information and images in your profile. You can utilize your pictures as a virtual scrapbook that emphasizes who you are, showing potential matches your personality.

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In order to garner the most interest, try taking an active role in the planning and production of your profile. Present your story in eye-catching layers to lure the scanning reader, inserting thoughtful photos to make the visitor stop and pay attention.

Keep it Real

The main photo should be a realistic representation of you. Don’t worry about those few extra pounds or a less-than-perfect smile. Present an accurate portrayal of yourself as the sole subject, featuring a few different angles, an up-close and personal shot and a full body photo. The first step is to be honest with yourself and the qualities that you are looking for in a mate. Then, you must also be forthright in who you are to others.

Feature Fido

Insert a photo of you and your pet to show off your softer side. Your relationship with your four-legged friend exhibits care and respect for other living beings and that you aren’t afraid of the commitment of a relationship. Pets can help to demonstrate your fun side, too, fetching a Frisbee on the beach or a roll around on the front lawn. With more than 40 million people enjoying the benefits of furry comrades, you are bound to find a like-minded match.

Show Off your Hobbies

Show your profile visitors what you love to do. By highlighting your possible commonalities, you reach out to others that are fellow enthusiasts. Feature a shot of you surfing that elusive “Endless Summer” wave, cheering on your favorite sports team in full fan regalia or maybe on stage portraying Horatio in your community theater production. Take a photo of you in your element, displaying your passion and practice, and quite possibly find another devotee.

Accomplishments

You work hard to advance yourself, so underscore your accomplishments in your profile photos. A picture of you and your team crossing the finish line, receiving your doctorate in the black cap and gown or reaching the summit of that impossible climb exhibits your will to finish something and the dedication that took you to your goal.

Go Back in the Day

Some of the best laughs are based on real occurrences, so harness the comedic relief of those what-was-I-thinking times. Feature a shot of you as an awkward preteen with big glasses and bigger hair, or maybe you in a goofy Groucho Marx nose and glasses set. Funny photos from less than perfect times reveal the ability to laugh at yourself and show your fun side.

Family Ties

Children, siblings, friends or your parents are your heart and soul, so highlight the strength in those relationships. Be careful not to turn your profile into an overwhelming slideshow from the family vacation to the Grand Canyon or last summer’s family reunion. Display a few photos of the family to offer the visitor a glimpse of your priorities and dedication to them.

Living it Up

What does it mean to you about having a great life? Are you most at home alone in front of an easel? Do you love to be with a dozen friends by the pool? Are you happiest digging in the dirt and gardening out back? Show potential mates the things that enrich your life, your favorite vacation spot or an activity that you do in your free time to offer a real glimpse into your interests, instead of just a questionnaire answer.

Treat your profile photos as a way for a visitor to see into your life, nudging them to stop and stay awhile. Just like your personality, your pictures should each offer a glimpse of the details told as a part of a complete set. You are not one dimensional, so why just feature one picture? Instead, introducing diverse backgrounds, various angles and interesting pieces of your life paints a more accurate picture of the many layers of you.

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I don't agree that photos should tell a story about your "total" life. I'm not interested that you wore Z-Cavariccis and a Varnet France tshirt 20 years ago. If you want to share a story of how you went skydiving [I]once [/I](10 years ago) on your 21st birthday, why not just share it on the phone or via text in a profile? I'm more interested in relatively recent pictures. I had a match who was an amateur bodybuilder. She was ripped, cut and in great shape. The pictures reflected someone who valued health and discipline. She probably did 10 years ago; yet, unfortunately she pulled a bait and switch. Why portray who you were in your past?
Hi Kungfuftr, It sounds like the example you describe is more along the lines of a match misrepresenting herself vs. showing a fun photo which is clearly from the past. We actually do recommend in our Photo Guidelines (in number 7) to avoid posting photos from the past that you think will make your matches look better than you do now. It can make for an unpleasant experience for both parties, as you mentioned: [url=http://bit.ly/47xpvl]What are your photo posting guidelines?[/url] I think your opinion about not wanting to see photos from all stages of your match’s life is valid. At the same time, some people might find photos like that fun and informative. It seems to me that it’s a style preference. All the best, ~Kate eHarmony Advice Host
- October 25, 2009 01:46 PM

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I tried to "Go Back in the Day" and my photo was rejected. The reason, photos must contain me. It did contain a very real me just at an earlier age than I am now. Seems that the eHarmony censors need to read the articles that their Advice writers are writing and either censor the article or accept the photos that are recommended in the articles.
Hi Gr8guyn2008, Sorry that your back-in-the-day photo wasn’t approved. It may have been mistaken for a photo of someone else since it didn’t look like the other photos of you. If you do post something from “back in the day”, you may want to add a caption to avoid confusing your matches (and our photo team). If it’s still not approved, please contact our Customer Care team and let them know that the young man in the photo is in fact, you. Sincerely, ~Kate eHarmony Advice Host
- October 25, 2009 01:31 PM

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I don't agree that photos should tell a story about your "total" life. I'm not interested that you wore Z-Cavariccis and a Varnet France tshirt 20 years ago. If you want to share a story of how you went skydiving [I]once [/I](10 years ago) on your 21st birthday, why not just share it on the phone or via text in a profile? I'm more interested in relatively recent pictures. I had a match who was an amateur bodybuilder. She was ripped, cut and in great shape. The pictures reflected someone who valued health and discipline. She probably did 10 years ago; yet, unfortunately she pulled a bait and switch. Why portray who you were in your past?
- October 25, 2009 01:14 PM

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