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What's your Dating IQ?

People with Relational Competence are better at creating and maintaining social relationships, giving them an upper hand in the world of dating. Learn what makes a person great at interacting with others and where you stand on the socialization scale.

What's your Dating IQ?
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What makes someone “good” at relationships? Is it possible to be adept at something such as dating or other social relationships? In fact, there is such a thing as Relational Competence (in other words, how talented someone is at initiating and maintaining a good relationship), and research has shown that people with strong relational competence have better communication and more satisfying interactions and relationships with others. Here are some of the widely identified dimensions of relational competence to help you determine your own dating IQ.

Initiating Relationships

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If you are skillful at the initiation stage of a relationship, you can be expressive in social situations. You have no trouble asking someone new to get together or go out, you can introduce yourself to and carry on conversations with a new person that you might want to get to know, and you are not afraid to go to parties where you don’t know people.

Personal Disclosure

If you are skillful at personal disclosure, you have no difficulty in revealing something intimate about yourself while talking with someone you are just getting to know. You can confide in people and let others get to know the “real” you. This includes disclosing things that you might be ashamed of or anxious about, but also good things such as how much you appreciate and care for another person.

Asserting Displeasure with Others

If you are skillful in this domain, you are able to tell someone that you don’t like a certain way he or she has been treating you. This includes saying “no” when you feel a request is unreasonable or you don’t want to do something. You can tell someone when they have hurt your feelings or made you angry or embarrassed, and can stand up for yourself when you have been wronged.

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This article didn't explain anything. None of what was said had anything to do with creating ATTRACTION. Where is the advice to men regarding how to create ATTRACTION in women... the kind of ATTRACTION that is required for a relationship to begin in the first place?

- September 01, 2009 02:04 PM

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I have not dated since my divorce. I love traveling and being active, sswimming, hiking

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dating is very overrated and work seems more important to me at this time.
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