Online Dating 101: Photos
You don't need to have the skills of a famous fashion photographer, but for best results you should do more than point and click. Follow these eHarmony Photo Guidelines to put your best face forward.
by eHarmony Staff
Step 2: Your Photos
When it comes to selecting the best photos for your profile, you don't want to choose just any old snapshot. You need the right photo-the kind that captures the real you, and attracts and shows your matches who you really are.
1. Make your primary photo sing -
If a picture's worth a thousand words, make sure you're saying your best-smiling, with eyes wide open; they are the windows to the soul. 
2. Showcase your style with your secondary photos -
Secondary photos are those viewed when a match clicks in to your primary photo to see more photos of you. Secondary photos are a great opportunity to showcase your personal style, so long as you stick to these commonsense photo tips and eHarmony Photo Guidelines.
3. The Medium is the Message
| Cell phones and Web cams may seem convenient, but pictures come across grainy and shady. Get a hold of a good digital camera, take traditional film photos and scan at a high resolution, or have them professionally taken. |
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Another option: Professional Photos
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Long gone are the days when you'd get your picture taken every year in school. Professional photos are another way to guarantee great pictures for your profile. Photographers and photo studios are easy to come by and headshots needn't cost a ton of money. Plus, professional image quality is far superior than most do-it-yourself options. |
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21 comments on
“Online Dating 101: Photos”
wow there are some shallow people on here.........:confused:..thats sad that some of you guys are having a hard time:(
- November 06, 2009 12:45 PM
KOOL I can comment. I agree to the above. I am IMHO good looking, in great shape for 47. 6'1" 180# hardly any grey. Very energetic, fun, open minded. With most of the guys I see my age, I IMO think I am in the top 30%. BUT I have NO LUCK on Singles websites. I have joined and ended quit a few singles since 2006. Always saying to myself-"This is a waste of time ". I am open minded and figure I would give it a try again as I am NOT a quitter. I will just hope GOD will give me a hand in this journey. I am looking for female friends to have fun with, go out to eat, drive around and see new things, play pool, go bowling, dancing, most anything. You would think many women would like my profile and what I want and can give, It almost makes me feel like this is all fake??? Anyway, GOOD LUCK to all men and women, I HOPE you have MUCH better luck then me. JEFF :)))
- November 06, 2009 02:21 AM
I wanted to put a quick note on here, especially for the guys who automatically assume that they are being deleted for their looks.
Here are my top 5 reasons (in the order I use them) for deleting a guy off of my profile:
#1. His profile is not filled out completely
#2. His profile is filled out, but 50% of the sections have random characters or words so that it only looked like it was done.
#3. Typos, typos, typos. Most women are very big on spelling and typos. Think of it as an entrance essay for college. If that profile is your best effort, what does your everyday effort look like?
#4. I truly don't think I want to date this person based on statements they have made. I don't think we're compatible. An example: His hobbies are things I am not interested in; he has children already, and I personally want to start my own family with someone else just starting theirs (btw: KUDOS to single parents!!); or that he is not into missions, as I am.
#5. No picture posted, or not someone I am attracted to.
Guys, please don't take it personally if a girl closes your profile because you are not attractive to *her*. Would you stick around with a girl you weren't attracted to? We're making sure neither of us waste time with someone. Don't worry about the 500 or so girls that close your profile. There are billions of people out there. There may not be *one* person for everyone...but *everyone* probably isn't right for you either. Don't feel bad. Someone is there for you. Definitely don't blame the girl. Thank her that you can now focus on someone right for you. That's what I do for every guy (and there are hundreds) who close the match with me.
- November 05, 2009 09:21 PM
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