Advice and Support from Thousands of Users Just Like You

About You Your healthy mind, body, and spirit play a vital role in all the important relationships of your life. Share your advice and insights here.

Reply
Page 1 of 7 1 2 3 Last »
 
LinkBack (2) Thread Tools
Mayne Mayne is offline
Mayne's Avatar

Quick Study

Join Date: May 2008

Posts: 109

See profile

Any guys paranoid that women in their late 30's/early 40's who say they want kids are in race against the biological clock and are just looking for the first suitable husband/sperm donor they can find? only to be dumped a few years later? I recall reading a stat that something like 80% of all divorces are initiated by the woman.
- June 19th, 2009, 07:50 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#1   Reply With Quote
D_Lion D_Lion is offline
D_Lion's Avatar

D_Lion - Ladies want to wring my neck - you have been warned!

Sage

Join Date: Aug 2008

Posts: 11,059

See profile

Paranoid implies irrational fear.

The context of your OP appears to attempt to make a case for the opposite.

It is your role in a new relationship to assess the quality of your partner and determine if you can fulfill her expectations. If you can, and treat her properly, why would she leave you?

If you can’t, select a different partner.
- June 19th, 2009, 07:58 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#2   Reply With Quote
IcecreamMoon IcecreamMoon is offline
IcecreamMoon's Avatar

IcecreamMoon Nothing to see here at all...

Virtuoso

Join Date: May 2009

Posts: 2,848

See profile

D_Lion wrote :
Paranoid implies irrational fear.
I'm liking this
But if you do this often, I'll have little else to say...

On second thought, we could just blast that entire portion of the population, and have even more fun with it
- June 19th, 2009, 09:04 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#3   Reply With Quote
Nanette Nanette is offline
Nanette's Avatar

Nanette is tired of reading about ancient civilizations so here i am!

Veteran

Join Date: Jun 2008

Posts: 1,041

See profile

Mayne wrote :
Any guys paranoid that women in their late 30's/early 40's who say they want kids are in race against the biological clock and are just looking for the first suitable husband/sperm donor they can find? only to be dumped a few years later? I recall reading a stat that something like 80% of all divorces are initiated by the woman.
really if someone wanted a baby there are other avenues these days that would carry far less drama and baggage.
- June 19th, 2009, 10:38 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#4   Reply With Quote
D_Lion D_Lion is offline
D_Lion's Avatar

D_Lion - Ladies want to wring my neck - you have been warned!

Sage

Join Date: Aug 2008

Posts: 11,059

See profile

Nanette wrote :
really if someone wanted a baby there are other avenues these days that would carry far less drama and baggage.

In and of itself, that doesn’t disprove his thesis.

Particularly when “other avenues” have cost, and his is an income stream. Hence, “paranoia.”
- June 20th, 2009, 07:01 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#5   Reply With Quote

ADVERTISEMENT

IcecreamMoon IcecreamMoon is offline
IcecreamMoon's Avatar

IcecreamMoon Nothing to see here at all...

Virtuoso

Join Date: May 2009

Posts: 2,848

See profile

D_Lion wrote :
Particularly when “other avenues” have cost, and his is an income stream. Hence, “paranoia.”
And dealing with divorce, custody and alimony disputes is just an added bonus.

Good to have you back
- June 20th, 2009, 07:11 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#6   Reply With Quote
Gr8Guyn2008 Gr8Guyn2008 is offline
Gr8Guyn2008's Avatar

Gr8Guyn2008 I wanna know what love is, I want you to show me

Power Poster

Join Date: Jan 2008

Posts: 9,348

See profile

Mayne wrote :
Any guys paranoid that women in their late 30's/early 40's who say they want kids are in race against the biological clock and are just looking for the first suitable husband/sperm donor they can find? only to be dumped a few years later? I recall reading a stat that something like 80% of all divorces are initiated by the woman.
Not exactly in my demographics. But I see your premise as flawed through personally proven evidence of single women who have selected a father for their child with no regard for love or marriage.
- June 20th, 2009, 08:28 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#7   Reply With Quote
wordwoman wordwoman is offline
wordwoman's Avatar

wordwoman is in contemplation

Quick Study

Join Date: Mar 2009

Posts: 221

See profile

Your theory assumes that the ONLY reason a woman who wants children in this specific age range desires a husband is to procreate. Well, there are so many flaws in this assumption...I'm darn near speechless.

But OP, I will say this: If you're not interested in becoming a father or a husband, please don't. As you meet women who want to become mothers and wives, please don't get involved with them, walk away. You will be doing them, and their future children, a huge favor.
- June 20th, 2009, 09:45 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#8   Reply With Quote
lookingagain lookingagain is offline
lookingagain's Avatar

Newbie

Join Date: Jun 2009

Posts: 7

See profile

I am going through this situation now. I think the main thing is you need to want children yourself, if you are unsure its not fair to her. You might be a great guy, but for her I think its a deal breaker if you are saying maybe someday down the road you might want to. The one thing I have found is that the pace of the relationship is fast and that can become uncomfortable as big decisions need to made sooner rather than later. Hope you figure it out.
- June 20th, 2009, 10:02 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#9   Reply With Quote
Nevada_Guy Nevada_Guy is offline
Nevada_Guy's Avatar

Newbie

Join Date: Jun 2009

Posts: 38

See profile

It is my understanding that the premise for the "Wants Kids" part of the profile is more than that.
It is not necessarily indicating that they are racing against some Biological Clock and will marry the first guy that comes along that loosely fits her definition as acceptable. (and will subsequently divorce them once she gets the payoff)
I was of the assumption that it could also mean that the woman would accept a man that already has children or that adoption is a possibility.

I am a man that can't have children but am certainly interested in adopting some day or finding a woman that already has children (which in my age group is not that unusual).
I am upfront about the subject when it comes up.

Did I apply too broad a definition to the "wants children" part? Does that mean I should stop going on dates with women that want children because I can't give them the actual birth experience?

I don't think so. But maybe that is just me.
- June 20th, 2009, 10:28 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#10   Reply With Quote

ADVERTISEMENT

Reply
Page 1 of 7 1 2 3 Last »

Bookmarks

« Drama Queens and Crisis Kings | Array | too much baggage »
Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

LinkBacks (?)
LinkBack to this Thread: http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/dating-advice/about-you/26022-women-late-30s-early-40s-who-say-they-want-kids.html
Posted By For Type Date
Dating advice message board This thread Refback November 8th, 2009 12:49 pm
Women in late 30's/early 40's who say they want kids - Page 3 - Dating & Relationship Discussion Boards – eHarmony Advice This thread Refback July 19th, 2009 09:46 am

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Why Successful Women Can't Find a Great Man eharmonyadvice Ask a Dating Expert 573 November 13th, 2009 07:06 pm
so then a women who is not real pretty can never find love???? kat5560 Dating 97 October 16th, 2009 09:49 pm

Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“Happy&Light Is this the same boyfriend who is "stern" with you? You created a thread last summer? He was yelling so much at you parking in the wrong spot that he made you cry at dinner in the ... ” – j0hn8andy

Join the “Conflict over TV/movie habits.” discussion

“Also, keep in mind that many guys (myself included) have gone out with women where everything was fine until he pays her the first compliment. It's possible that the lesson he took was "Don't ... ” – Oregon_Coast_Guy

Join the “My boyfriend never compliments me, but compliments others” discussion

“Hey, I've only been seeing this new guy for a couple of weeks. Before that, it was 2 guys in a row that just didn't like to kiss, and nothing before that. Yes, I brush my teeth. ” – chawks64

Join the “Is everyone but me dating?” discussion

“I SAY IT'S BEST THAT.....THIS JUST MY VIEW POINT...... I PERSONALLY BEEN THEIR AND THINGS DONOT ALWAYS GET BETTER.. AND I THINK YOU ALREADY HAD SOME THINGS THAT YOU DONOT WANT TO FACE RIGHT NOW.. ... ” – misswright

Join the “Stay in or get out?????” discussion

“I can totally relate to you. I've only been on 2 dates with this guy, but we spent 7 hours together yesterday and it was awesome. I already feel like I'm starting to like him alot and it scares me. ... ” – Andrea8823

Join the “Can you prevent yourself from falling for someone?” discussion

“I'm dating a man I met at work right now. When I first started with the company, we were flirting back and forth for a few weeks, and then I asked him out. He turned me down. Fast forward 2 years, ... ” – bigfincat

Join the “I'm attracted to independent women” discussion

“oh if a girl forgets to hug me at the end of our date, i would think she's not interested. I think he's thinking the same thing!!! oh what was I gonna say..oh yeah, don't be too paranoid!! you ... ” – Andrea8823

Join the “always so paranoid” discussion

“it may not be able to be commercialized but i just purchased three times the food i normally do! ditto, on the prayer warrior.” – notyet

Join the “This is the Day !” discussion



All times are GMT -7. The time now is 11:00 pm.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.1
Copyright ©2000 - 2009, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
SEO by vBSEO 3.3.0