I think some of these 'answer choices/correct answers' leave a lot to be desired:


Q#2: Your date is happy to let you plan the evening. You don't know this person very well, so you pick:
E) Chinese food and a wine bar is the best option. The food choice is familiar to everyone and a wine bar is usually quiet and great for conversation, which should be the focus of a first date.


I disagree. First, I don't drink wine. A beer or mixed drink, yes...not wine. Second, while many people love Chinese food (myself included), many do not. Unless that had been determined beforehand, it would be a bad choice. The reasons being 1.) many Chinese restaurants do not offer other menu options, such as steak, dinner salad, etc. 2.) Chinese restaurants that do offer other options are normally higher-priced and would cost more than some might expect to pay for a first date. A good, reasonably priced restaurant that offers a wide variety of food choices would be the best idea.


Q#6: During the date, your mobile phone starts to vibrate. You let it go to voicemail. It rings again. This time do you:
B) Excuse yourself, go outside and check the call. Several rings in a row suggests that something important is up. But no one, not your date nor the people in the restaurant want to hear your call. Get up, go outside, and take care of it.


My answer to this question was Dig the phone out and say, "I'm sorry this may be an emergency." The reason given for this not being the correct answer is Pulling the phone out at the table isn't a date ending faux pas…but it does show that you have a tendency to interrupt important situations to answer your phone. Not a great sign.


This answer did not specify that you would "answer your phone" it simply suggested that you would "check" the call to see who it is. Having a teenage son, I would definitely check the call to see if it were him. However, it would be pointless to get up and leave the room just to check the call. If the call was not an emergency, I would simply let it go to voicemail. I would expect for my date, if he is a parent, to do the same. If the call had to be answered then, yes, leaving the room would be the thing to do. Also, I'm probably not going to wait for the phone to ring several times, in a row, before I check to see if it's my son. If he should have an emergency, and has only one chance to contact me, you had better believe I'm going to answer. If my date has a problem with that, then he's not for me. I have never been insulted by someone simply "checking" a call in my presence...that would be absurd.


Q#7: The date is progressing, and as fun as it may be, there is no sense of romance or chemistry. Just two nice people chatting. Which of the following is the best subtle way to test the attraction between you?
D) Lean in and whisper something funny and harmless — see if the person leans into you or away from you. The best way to test attraction is by a making a gentle, non-sexual invasion of someone's personal space. A whisper of some sort is a good example. You lean in and say something soft, and if the person likes you they will lean your way. Those who stay still or lean away, aren't feeling the chemistry.


This is not a good idea. A "whispered" statement may not be heard correcly, if at all. In turn, the other person either 1.) misunderstands what was said or 2.) has to ask you to repeat it. Just because they lean toward you does not mean there is chemistry...more likely, they are just trying to hear or understand what you're saying.


My answer to this question was While walking along together take the person's hand in yours — see what happens? The reason for it being the incorrect answer is: A) is putting the person in a box. If they don't like holding hands with you what can they do? Obviously shake your hand away? That's awkward. Holding hands should only happen after you've seen some other signs that your date is feeling romantic.


I disagree, completely. I have done this, on occasion, and it has always worked. Holding hands is one of the simplest ways to give your date the message that you're interested. It's much easier than any other options. I had much rather my date take my hand than try to come up with some clever, romantic thing to say...and, slipping his arm around my waist (choice C, which is suggested to be better than holding hands) would be a good bit more "forward", for a first date, than holding hands, in my opinion. When "walking along", anywhere, there is always going to be a legitimate excuse/chance for the other person to let go of my hand...that's fine. It's when the opportunity arises to re-establish holding my hand, that will tell me whether or not he is interested. If he then takes my hand, I have my answer. If he does not, I still have my answer. I have never had someone "obviously shake [my] hand away"...and, most often, my date will re-take my hand.


Q#8: While telling a story about a past vacation you mention your ex. After a moment your date circles back and asks, "So what happened in your relationship with your ex?" What do you say?
A) "The details are boring, but in the end we both had problems that made us incompatible." is the best option. You don't immediately shut down the topic. You share the blame. You discourage talking about the details. Perfect.


I completely disagree. That phrase, "...in the end, we both 'had problems'..." is going to make me think, "What kind of problems?! Mental? Emotional? Physically abusive? And, what kind of end?" Whether or not I ask him to specify would depend on my general "feeling" about him, at that particular point. But, I would definitely raise a mental eyebrow to that answer. My choice would be C: It just didn't work out. When said with a genuine smile, this answer is perfectly acceptible and, in my personal opinion, "preferred" for a first date conversation.


Q#12: The car rolls to a stop, and in a few moments, you and your date are making-out. The evening has obviously gone very well. After 15 minutes of kissing your date looks at you and says, "You wanna come in for a nightcap?" What do you say?
D) "Obviously, I'm very attracted to you. But I don't want to get ahead of ourselves, so let's go slow." Hold on… it's a first date. You want the person to know you are EXTREMELY attracted to them, so no feelings are hurt. But sleeping with someone on the first date is a bad life policy.


Okay, in the first place, I can't speak for anyone else...but my personal view is that if I am willing to sit in the car and "make out" for 15 minutes, on a "first date", then tell the guy I want to "take it slow", I am already sending mixed signals. 15 minutes is not a long time to wait in a doctor's office, but giving a guy 15 minutes to become sexually aroused is way more than he needs (in most cases). Then, to expect him to understand my "wanting to go slow" is utterly ridiculous. That's definitely teasing a guy and it's not fair. If I truly want to "take it slow", then I don't make out for 15 minutes before I tell him. A couple of minutes would be more than sufficient. I have two older brothers and many male friends...I am 100% sure they would all agree with me on this.


My answer choice (for lack of a better one): "Sorry, I've got an early meeting tomorrow and need to go home." This answer was incorrect because B) This is an obvious lie, and while it prevents the first date sleep over, it also can leave someone wondering why you used such an obvious lie.


First of all, on a "Thursday" night, it is highly possible that work or school would not be a lie...especially if I had to travel an hour to get home. Had you offered the choice of a reasonable explanation, one that was not a lie, I would have chosen that answer. Given that this was the closest thing to a "reasonable answer" choice, this is what I chose...my thinking was that I would not lie, but I would be honest and tell him the exact reason I couldn't stay. If I were attracted to him, I would definitely tell him...and I would respect him enough to be honest from the start and not lead him on, then pull the plug. That, in my opinion, would be the right thing to do. According to these answers, that wasn't even a choice.


Just my 2 cents.