You should realize that the 2-3 month timeline may be a rather optimistic take on things, and it may be wholly out of his control. Many states have statutory waiting periods before divorce can even be filed, and if there are, as it seems, children involved, then the proceedings can drag on - or maybe he already has a settlement agreement signed, and he's absolutely right. Either way, if you are thinking about getting involved with him, understand what pitfalls may be out there, how long things could take, and whether or not your're prepared to go through all of it with him.

I have been dating a separated/married man for a little over five months now. When he finally told me that he was still married, he assured me that it would only be "two months, maybe less" before things were final. Flash forward to today - he hasn't even filed for divorce yet.

Don't get me wrong. He really is a great guy, and honestly, I love everything about him, except for his wife. No other issues. Zero. But, he was as stubborn as they come when it came to doing something he felt his wife should have done - file the stupid papers, since she was the one that flew the coop. She appears to be a total dingbat and will never get around to it. He just plain didn't want to deal with any of it ("I don't want to know how to get divorced.") and somehow thought that she would learn some kind of lesson by having to do the legwork.

Ready to move on? Hmmm. . .probably not completely. . .It's weird. I feel completely secure in my relationship with him, but sometimes he says stuff that just makes me shake my head. . .he would never hold something she did against me, and he is completely there for me. It's just. . .a certain amount of bitterness comes through that tells me mayyybe some wounds haven't completely healed. But, then again, I can understand why he still thinks she's the scum of the earth. I tend to agree. I mean, if she had only cheated on and abandoned her husband, that would be one thing. But she left her dog too. Pure evil.

Anyway, he has finally agreed that being so stubborn is counter-productive, and he just wants it done. So. . .I am a lawyer. . .I feel like I should be a rebound. . .not only can I help him through his divorce emotionally, I can do the paperwork too!

I suppose only time will tell. At least, I don't regret it yet. If one day he does break my little "band-aid" heart, well, the past five months have been the happiest of my life, so, at least I have that.

Good luck, whatever you decide. If you go for it, it's probably guaranteed to be a bit of a weird situation for awhile, but that doesn't have to be a bad thing.