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Ok so I have been out of the dating game for about, oh 15 years. I have no idea what to do. I met a great guy online and we chatted for about 2 weeks before meeting. We had 5 great dates in a row. He had fun, I had fun, and I thought win win. We both agreed to take it slow and enjoy the ride. Well....we were fine or so I thought and then nothing. No return text. He said he would call this weekend and now the weekend is over. I text him several times a day with little stuff but he never seemed upset and responded. I know we are both busy and maybe I'm over analyzing it but could you have fun and say you want this to go somewhere and then just not bother responding? What does this mean in guy speak? Do I send another message and just say "look, what's going on?" I don't mind giving space...I need mine too....did I just over-step my texting boundaries?
- November 1st, 2009, 11:53 pm
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What's with all these dating and relationship questions and texting? Jeez Louize why don't some of you call the person you have a question about and ask THEM??

Maybe while you're farting around texting, he's having a real discussion with someone else who can have a meaningful conversation.
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- November 3rd, 2009, 06:02 am
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tweet37 wrote :
What's with all these dating and relationship questions and texting? Jeez Louize why don't some of you call the person you have a question about and ask THEM??

Maybe while you're farting around texting, he's having a real discussion with someone else who can have a meaningful conversation.
You should get off the internet. It's obviously WAY too high-tech for you. While you're farting around posting on this 'internet' thingie, real people are interacting and having real conversations. Grouchie-pants.

LadyDoxie, it's called 'poofing' and it happens all the time. People vanish without explanation, and there's no way to know exactly why, but it usually comes down to him deciding he wasn't interested any more and didn't have the decency to tell you, so he just stopped responding instead.
It's not very polite, but politeness seems to be in short supply. Don't worry about it too much, it happens all the time to all kinds of people. Just try to put it behind you and move on.

Good luck.
- November 3rd, 2009, 12:55 pm
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Yeah, cut down on the texting. You say you're both busy, yet you're sending him several texts a day about "little stuff." (whatever that means) Some people don't like to be in constant touch, I know i'd much rather not carry a cell phone all the time. And really...how could he tell you to cut down on the texts without thinking you'd take it the wrong way ?

And it could be what Kevin said too.
- November 3rd, 2009, 09:44 pm
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I get that I'm in my mid-20s and a lot of folks around my age are into texting, but getting several texts a day when I haven't even replied to one of them would be a turnoff for me personally. Either he'll be in touch with you or he won't, but constant prodding isn't going to make him more likely to get back to you, and might make him less inclined.

For future reference, I'd suggest not contacting someone through one-way communication (text, email, or voicemail) more than perhaps once a day without any response unless you really have some important additional information to communicate. If they want to hear from you more than that, they'll be reciprocating the communication.

Not wanting that frequency of communication by the way doesn't signal a lack of interest, just a different approach to communication. I want to give my full attention to whatever I'm doing, which means that I'm not interested in responding to texts throughout my day, but that also means that I won't be splitting my attention between you and my cellphone when we're together, it cuts both ways.
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- November 3rd, 2009, 10:07 pm
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