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- eat without complaint.


That's just asking for too much. First they can't have sex. Now they can't eat as well?
lol. it's pretty unusual for complaining to help digestion. usually it's the opposite.
- January 1st, 2009, 01:18 pm
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lil_lamb wrote :

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- eat without complaint.


That's just asking for too much. First they can't have sex. Now they can't eat as well?


lol. it's pretty unusual for complaining to help digestion. usually it's the opposite.
I was being serious. I have been on dates where the dudette insisted on cooking for me, yet she was a horrible cook. In fact, I don't think I have meta single woman who was a good cook. I do NOT blame them, as they all have busy careers, so no wonder they cannot hold candle to a chef in a decent restaurant. But when I - very politely, mind you - suggested that eating out is not all that bad, their feelings were hurt.


What about my feelings when I chomp down on chow that is mediocre at best?
- January 1st, 2009, 01:20 pm
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I respect men who are considerate and good natured and don't explode over little percieved slights. I respect honest men who do as they say. I respect chivalrous men who hold a door for us. I respect men with straightforwardness, courage and above all, I respect men who respect women.
- January 1st, 2009, 04:30 pm
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writergurl wrote :

You want to ask the question, but don't care about the responses. So I'll ask the question, why bother responding?
The straightest way to answer this question is pretty simple, really: I'm curious as to the responses that would be given.

I mean this isn't a hard thing to understand, I hope. I just want to find out what happens if the shoe is on the other foot.

Respect for anyone, man or woman is earned, and in my opinion, it has nothing to do with age. I'm 36. next year I'll be 37. BFD. It's what you've done and what you're doing to enforce it that I respect. I respect a 10-year old girl trying to complete her forms in Tae Kwon Do more than the 40-year old mother of that girl who doesn't have the guts to try it.
- January 1st, 2009, 05:11 pm
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ManekiNeko wrote :

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You want to ask the question, but don't care about the responses. So I'll ask the question, why bother responding?


The straightest way to answer this question is pretty simple, really: I'm curious as to the responses that would be given.

I mean this isn't a hard thing to understand, I hope. I just want to find out what happens if the shoe is on the other foot.

Respect for anyone, man or woman is earned, and in my opinion, it has nothing to do with age. I'm 36. next year I'll be 37. BFD. It's what you've done and what you're doing to enforce it that I respect. I respect a 10-year old girl trying to complete her forms in Tae Kwon Do more than the 40-year old mother of that girl who doesn't have the guts to try it.
OK. I respect courage, openness and good character. I respect open-mindedness and directness,even moreso if they exist in a man who is not naturally open-minded or direct. I respect a man who is not afraid to show his emotions and his spirituality, who is not threatened by having a feminine side. I respect competence in any form I find it. I respect good discernment, which must be developed from native intelligence. I respect a good work ethic and general attitude of perserverance. I respect a man who treats those less fortunate than him with kindness, generosityand humility.
- January 1st, 2009, 05:43 pm
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TMifune wrote :

I was being serious. I have been on dates where the dudette insisted on cooking for me, yet she was a horrible cook. In fact, I don't think I have meta single woman who was a good cook. I do NOT blame them, as they all have busy careers, so no wonder they cannot hold candle to a chef in a decent restaurant. But when I - very politely, mind you - suggested that eating out is not all that bad, their feelings were hurt.


What about my feelings when I chomp down on chow that is mediocre at best?
uh... did you really suggest that? eating out during a home-cooked meal while a guest in someone's home? um, that's chutzpah. you can get chutzpah to go down with chagrin aimed at yourself, and exoneration for the other person, but it's not ever really gonna be polite.


dining is an art in my family. my family is willing to get on an airplane for a meal prepared by a certain chef. but i've also cleaned up a lot of horrible meals with a sincere thank you, meals prepared by people whose professed love of cooking is nothing short of bewildering. it's the same art that leads to the thank you.


if you just can't do that, if you have eating requirements, serious answer: that should be one of the first things out of your mouth. you warn in advance that you may take a bite and not finish your plate, and may need to go out for other food. you say you beg for their understanding in advance, that this is something about you. it is the only other polite option. it is how you avoid placing blame and take responsibility for your feelings, which of course belongs on you.





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Quite simply, I respect a man who respects me, respects himself, respects others and respects the environment. Respect, in my opinion, is key to any relationship and I won't pursue one without it. Respect means he treats me as his equal, shows others the consideration he'd like shown back, knows its okay to have opinions different from mine (I do like a good debate) but expresses them politely, has concern for someone other than himself and does something about it, communicates openly without assuming I should just "know," remembers there are other people in existence with thoughts and feelings besides just himself, etc etc.
- January 2nd, 2009, 05:01 am
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I respect a man who earns my respect.


I don't give respect as a right. Respect is like trust, it has to be earned.


A man deserves respect if he:


Means what he says and says what he means.


Has taken the time to truly know himself so he can share that knowledge with his partner.


Takes responsibility forhis actions.


Is honest in his dealings with other people.


Has integrity and principles.


Really, I could keep adding to the list endlessly, but I think you get the idea.


By the way, I can cook, very well.


I don't see how taking responsibility for the possibility of a pregnancy means "no sex" - I'd love someone to explain that to me!


- January 2nd, 2009, 05:13 am
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Aussie_Devilette wrote :

I don't see how taking responsibility for the possibility of a pregnancy means "no sex" - I'd love someone to explain that to me!

oh, we were talking about the opposite. about "no sex" being the respectable choice if you won't take responsibility.
- January 2nd, 2009, 05:34 am
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Ahhhhhhhhh - I clearly misread!
- January 2nd, 2009, 05:54 am
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