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trailviews wrote :

I've lived in the NYC area for a few months. I know it's expensive. If she can't afford to live there, she can't afford for her clock to be ticking either.


After I did the usual spots, I got out of there every weekend except a couple when family/friends visited, and I showed them around. It was cheaper to leave town. Went to some nice restaurants with friends downtown during the week, but when the weekend came, I was out of there: Catskills, Vermont, wherever. I'm more fun in NYC than she is.


Label obsessions? You lost me there. Like Gucci? Or as in Vice President of Something-or-other?
I know what you mean about cheaper to leave town; mi NYC friends escape to here and to FL whenever possible! And they're always bugging me to fix them up because by the time they get home at night they're too tired to go out to the nightlife scene, even when they have the money to do so, and the people they do meet (rarity)in their day to day aren't LTR material.

I love NYC, but I'm majorly frugal with my spending for needs so I have plenty for wants... most people are not.


And yes :-) Armani etc... never seen such label obsessed people as NYers! At least the ones I know. But shopping is really the only thing you can do spur of the moment there... can't go out back and target shoot, nowhere to do woodworking or have a hot rod to tinker on. Though I suppose painting or some type of craft could be possible, but would have to fit into the dinky free space available in most places.

With space and time restraints I can understanda lack of hobbies.
- January 4th, 2009, 04:11 pm
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Do any of us need a man (or a woman) in our lives in the strict sense of the word?


ummmm.... yeeeeeeeah.... Of course you do... It's time we nip this "I don't need a man" thing in the bud right now... Besides, we want to be needed...
Well, gee, I suppose we DO need a beast of burden ;-)


I truly don't NEED a man, but I do ENJOY having a man :-)
- January 4th, 2009, 04:13 pm
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SarahW wrote :

I don't think she seems desperate. If she were desperate, she'd have hooked up with someone - anyone who would have her - long ago. At least, that's what I think of, when I think "she must be desperate." I think of women I've known who've dated or stayed with guys that obviously weren't worth it.


She may be unrealistically picky - really hoping to find not just Mr Good Enough, or Mr Great even,but Mr Absolutely Perfect. Or maybe she's been unbelievably unlucky in finding a decent guy?


Overall, I don't think there is anything wrong with her method here though. And I admire her courage in putting it all out there.
I think she is desperate for the 'right' guy, not just any guy... I don't know how much luck she will have. A friend of mine tried something quite similar and only ever ended up meeting one man,for all her efforts! That one man was a fizzer; I don't think they even made it to the end of their first date.


There is nothing really wrong with her method, it's possible it could work, but to me it does also seem desperate.
- January 4th, 2009, 05:29 pm
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simpletonHeart70 wrote :


DennisWisconsin wrote :


Aussie_Devilette wrote :


Do any of us need a man (or a woman) in our lives in the strict sense of the word?


ummmm.... yeeeeeeeah.... Of course you do... It's time we nip this "I don't need a man" thing in the bud right now... Besides, we want to be needed...


Why, will women starve without a man? Die instantly?





Why do women need a man? I don't need a woman. Ever see Lars and the Real Woman?


I've seen the movie, Lars and the Real Girl. How does that figure in here? Without a spoiler...it is a very sweet story about a traumatized man being loved so much by his family and small town, that they just go along with Bianca, the half-Danish/half-Brazlian missionary ... doll.






SPOILER DO NOT READ IF YOU WANT TO SEE THE MOVIE: He ends up with a live flesh and blood woman at the end...after he choose to let go of Biance, the wall up here had between real women and life. /SPOILER ALERT OVER NOW...


So I do not see the correlation between Neenah's webste and Lars movie.





I also do not think it is crime to not be an airbrushed barbie doll putting oneself out there for love. All it takes is just one.





You seem be casting judgement onto Neenah judge & jury...which comes across like a smugness of already knowing the future. You don't know what will happen, neither do I. We really don't know until 2009 is up.





I for one have prince charming syndrome. But it is in regards to maturity level. I just can not stand immature men. I would rather stay single than deal with a relationship that is a a shipwreck from a man living in a fantasy land, much like Lars did. Lars at the end, getting it finally...that people love him and getting past the immaturity...that is more the man I might be interested in.
- January 4th, 2009, 06:55 pm
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To the label-obsessed in NYC: if you want it cheaply, go to Duffy's where "the millionaires go bargain-hunting". I am never label-obsessed except when I go to these stores with lots of labels for the fraction of the original price when I visit NYC: boy, aren't I happy after a a good shopping spree! Like mission accomplished (whether I found/will find the man or not). :-) Retail therapy is much better than obsessing about a failed romance!
- January 6th, 2009, 09:50 am
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simpletonHeart70 wrote :

Is finding your husband like finding a job?





I guess I don't like the approach very much. And even if she were really attractive, I wouldn't want to be one of the men that she's treating like a new car purchase.





Also...I smell something....desperation perhaps? Does she really need a husband this badly?
Well, first dates ARE kind of like interviews...only hopefully more pleasant.
- January 6th, 2009, 10:16 am
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To the label-obsessed in NYC: if you want it cheaply, go to Duffy's where "the millionaires go bargain-hunting". I am never label-obsessed except when I go to these stores with lots of labels for the fraction of the original price when I visit NYC: boy, aren't I happy after a a good shopping spree! Like mission accomplished (whether I found/will find the man or not). :-) Retail therapy is much better than obsessing about a failed romance!
Duffy's... where is it located? and do they have shoes? LOL! I am not label obsessed so I don't search out specific labels unless I find something ultra comfy then it's etched in my mind. But, the frugal side of me still does not give in so I must get them cheap!


The people I grew up with are amazed I love NY so much, but it has so much and there's an electricity that just comes up at you from the sidewalk... sameas Las Vegas! It would be hard for me to permanently give up my 'mini-farm' but I believe I could (actually considering it). I love walking the dog there, and I can walk for miles! No one messes with me because it seems like everyone is afraid of large dogs... weird.Maybe not weird,since she resembles a police dog and I have a "don't f with me or I'll kill ya" attitude to my walk at night LOL.
I don't love the loud nights when trying to sleep, or the having to move your vehicle for the street cleaners, not being legally allowed to carry, the stairs when the elevator goes out....

I think the most surprising thing I ever discovered there was that you can go to a local market and buy a fresh chicken - they kill/clean it whle you wait. Can't even do that here! But then here,we raise/hunt ourown. You can buy rabbit, quail and so on. Though who knows how they, NY ones, are raised... i know what the animals here eat.


Sorry, rambling. But hey, we have a year before we find out what happened to Neenah :-) so plenty of time for chit chat.
- January 6th, 2009, 01:31 pm
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So. Here I am. This has actually been a fun journey for me. I'm half way there and haven't found him, but I'm really enjoying the process. I'm meeting a lot of great people, both men and women, who have offered support, encouraged me and even advice. I've date 15 men (15 more than I dated last year). I think earlier on in the year, I said yes to dates even when I didn't think they were a good fit, but now I'm learning to trust myself a little more in who I think works well for me. I definitely don't feel desperate. I did want to do something different to find a husband. I knew I couldn't keep it the same and expect a different result, so I looked for a way to make meeting men adventurous, fun and successful and to also try and get the people around me involved in the process. It was too easy to sit home and watch TV and not put the effort into it that I should. My friend keep hold me accountable to be proactive and not be lazy pursuing something that is important to me. Like I said earlier, the main priority was to have fun in the process, be respectful of others and respect myself. If at the end of the 52 weeks I don't find him, I'll still look back at this year as one of the best ones ever!
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