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legend29 wrote :

...and don't forget the 'man-purses'!
That's number 2 on the list.
- January 18th, 2009, 07:16 pm
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Heh, I found this at urban dictionary...


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You might be "metrosexual" if:

1. You just can't walk past a Banana Republic store without making a purchase.

2. You own 20 pairs of shoes, half a dozen pairs of sunglasses, just as many watches and you carry a man-purse.

3. You see a stylist instead of a barber, because barbers don't do highlights.

4. You can make her lamb shanks and risotto for dinner and Eggs Benedict for breakfast... all from scratch.

5. You only wear Calvin Klein boxer-briefs.

6. You shave more than just your face. You also exfoliate and moisturize.

7. You would never, ever own a pickup truck.

8. You can't imagine a day without hair styling products.

9. You'd rather drink wine than beer... but you'll find out what estate and vintage first.

10. Despite being flattered (even proud) that gay guys hit on you, you still find the thought of actually getting intimate with another man truly repulsive.
11. You say to your date "We have GOT to go to this restaurant. The veal is just to DIE for!"


True story. Still not sure he's straight. Definitely had a better manicure than I did. Nuff said.


- January 18th, 2009, 07:17 pm
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Its all packaging inst it?


I find many diffent types of men attractive. For me its what inside the packaging.


Ilike warm eyes and warm smiles think it says alot about someone.


If it allows them to be more open about things then great.


As for the rustic look Ive seen men work hard at that look also.
- January 18th, 2009, 07:30 pm
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cp30 wrote :

Jacquesne....


okay, no need for all the bells and whistles (that might make you look...well....g_ay).* I was afraid some non-metrosexual man might be confused by the term "updated jeans"* so I will give you my idea of what would be nice....since most men seem to get shirts right (just a nice button down or most t-shirts will look good and updated so long as* the jeans are updated).* A nice darker wash, maybe some fading (heck I'd buy two pairs....a dark wash and a pair that is dark but more worn!).* Long enough, loose enough.....no need for goofy looking pockets on the back just avoid anything that says Wrangler or Lee! (I have to save the Wrangler discussion for another day....my pent up frustration could take down the board I'd write such a long post).* If you go into any decent store in a mall -- not outlet mall.....just pick something with the above guidelines and the fact its brand new should take care of the rest for you (the details I cant adequatley explain here).


Avoid anything too "pale"* and faded....that looks outdated. Especially if it actually is more than 5 years old.* Also anything that is too short and wants to sort of "taper" around the ankels....


and of course avoid manpris but that is also another discussion...
cp, thank you for the lesson in buying jeans...



I never realized that there was so much to it.. So far, in my life, the only requirement for purchase was "cover my azz.." Don't get me wrong, i do have some naturally faded jeans and even some with "small" holes in them.. I wear them to work.. Since at work the small holes rapidly turn into big holes, and the jeans no longer meet the criteria used during procurement, I toss them and move the worst pair of "good" jeans to the work wardrobe..



This, of course, leaves a vacancy, and allows me to start looking for the appropriate new pair.. I normally find these between the free samples of Progresso chicken soup and the office products (right there in the center of the store) in Costco.. I am picky though, they have to be made of denim, have 5 pockets (yes, the watch pocket is the most useful and a must), be blue, and cheap.. And if they are already half worn out?? No thank you.. It would be like buying a brand new car with rust holes in the fenders, oil smoke coming out of the exhaust and chips in the windshield..



Once in a while, however, I will splurge and buy a pair of Wranglers.. But I usually only wear them on occasions where formal dress is required, along with my one shirt that has a collar.. I must admit.. that shirt does have Carhartt written on the pocket.. (i was wearing Carhartt 20 years before it became fashionable.. Can somebody tell me, is Carhartt still in fashion??)



One other question.. Someone used the term narcissist when talking about a man that primps, but then girly-girl was used for a woman that does the same thing... Hmmmmm.. Narcissism, I don't believe, is a gender specific disorder.. Interesting...
- January 19th, 2009, 01:25 am
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I also don't want a metrosexual. I can't understand hetero men who shave their bodies - I find a hairy chest very sexy (assuming he doesn't look and feel like a sheep) and a shaved one a turn-off. As for make-up on men - yikes! Indeed there are way too many metrosexual men (whether straight or gay) in New York. When I was living there and had a visitor from San Diego (a tall, manly-looking guy, originally from New York though) everyone was looking at him! I think he enjoyed the attention, too. People could just tell that he was not from 'here'. He was wearing sensible clothes, shoes, and his shoulders were too wide for the subway seats (i.e. for the Metro, hehe).
- January 19th, 2009, 01:11 pm
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I also don't want a metrosexual. I can't understand hetero men who shave their bodies - I find a hairy chest very sexy (assuming he doesn't look and feel like a sheep) and a shaved one a turn-off. As for make-up on men - yikes! Indeed there are way too many metrosexual men (whether straight or gay) in New York. When I was living there and had a visitor from San Diego (a tall, manly-looking guy, originally from New York though) everyone was looking at him! I think he enjoyed the attention, too. People could just tell that he was not from 'here'. He was wearing sensible clothes, shoes, and his shoulders were too wide for the subway seats (i.e. for the Metro, hehe).
Oh, I love a hairy chest, too. It is my weakness. I once had a LTR tell me, "I ought to control you with my "chest"


.......actually he said something else instead of "chest", but I can't say it on the boards.


....no, silly, it wasn't "eyebrows"......
- January 19th, 2009, 02:04 pm
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Mr_Right wrote :

Heh, I found this at urban dictionary...


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You might be "metrosexual" if:

1. You just can't walk past a Banana Republic store without making a purchase.

2. You own 20 pairs of shoes, half a dozen pairs of sunglasses, just as many watches and you carry a man-purse.

3. You see a stylist instead of a barber, because barbers don't do highlights.

4. You can make her lamb shanks and risotto for dinner and Eggs Benedict for breakfast... all from scratch.

5. You only wear Calvin Klein boxer-briefs.

6. You shave more than just your face. You also exfoliate and moisturize.

7. You would never, ever own a pickup truck.

8. You can't imagine a day without hair styling products.

9. You'd rather drink wine than beer... but you'll find out what estate and vintage first.

10. Despite being flattered (even proud) that gay guys hit on you, you still find the thought of actually getting intimate with another man truly repulsive.
OMG! I didn't know what a Metrosexual was...then started reading this thread.


THIS was just too funny. Thanks for starting my day off (yeah...headed in for nightshift) with a chuckle.


As for dating one...umm...doubtful. I tend to wear classic styles that don't go out of style in 6 months. As for the current "retro" styles (back to the 70s, with platform shoes and bell-bottoms), my mom once said that if you remember the style when it was "in" the first time, you're too old to wear it now.
- January 19th, 2009, 02:05 pm
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I like guys who are like Frasier or Niles. Not the guys with too much hair product, etc.


But I also like guys with pick-up trucks.
- January 19th, 2009, 03:20 pm
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Well, I'm glad I failed the metrosexual test. Around my area, we simply assume that someone that prissy is gay (and oftentimes that is the case). As for myself, I am proud to be a man, and I'm not afraid of getting my hands dirty working on things. Also, I don't find fault with wearing wrangler jeans or carheart coats/overalls, as they are durable work clothes (everything else seems to rip to shreds when I'm working on stuff). I posess the ability to get dressed up for special occasions, but it is strictly limited to that. I don't wear a suit to go grocery shopping and my idea of a relaxing day includes a fishing or hunting trip, not a day spa!
- January 19th, 2009, 03:47 pm
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Sensitive... I'm very sensitive... whenever I hit my hand with a hammer it stings for awhile... see?!


One of my best friends growing up was very metro. He was raised primarily by his mom and when I met him he was pretty much completely useless at doing anything manly. He started spending time around my father and I where he got a chance to learn about being a man, fixing things that are broken, standing up for yourself and your family, and all sorts of other things and all of the sudden the way he was dressed didn't mean nearly as much to him anymore. He still spends a little more time on things like that than the average guy, but he's a lot better now.


Personally it's not my job to judge, but I firmly believe that man's first job is to do things like defend his family, defend his country, to provide for his family, to work towards solving situations, to work hard, etc. etc. A man who is doing all of those things and doing them well oftentimes should not have the time to keep up with fashion, hairstyles, manicures, bubble baths, or many of those other things because his mind should be on matters that are more important to what makes him a good man. Guys should smell nice, make sure their hair is not crazy out of wack, dress appropriately for their chosen profession and also dress appropriately for the other things that they should be doing with their time, and everything beyond that I'm just not really sure what the value is. My soon to be wife is the pretty one in our relationship and I like to keep it that way.
- January 19th, 2009, 04:32 pm
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