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I also don't want a metrosexual. I can't understand hetero men who shave their bodies - I find a hairy chest very sexy (assuming he doesn't look and feel like a sheep) and a shaved one a turn-off. As for make-up on men - yikes! Indeed there are way too many metrosexual men (whether straight or gay) in New York. When I was living there and had a visitor from San Diego (a tall, manly-looking guy, originally from New York though) everyone was looking at him! I think he enjoyed the attention, too. People could just tell that he was not from 'here'. He was wearing sensible clothes, shoes, and his shoulders were too wide for the subway seats (i.e. for the Metro, hehe).


I have to comment on this, because the same thing happened to me when I went to New York. It was obvious I wasn't from around those parts. I remember sitting at a table discussing this guy's shoes, him and the girls, how clean a buckly they were and where he found them. I was wearing a pair of scuffed-up Ropers with some 501s, or some such.


I think all men have a sense of pride in their appearance. There's nothing wrong with that. The New York dude looked really handsome, just not my thing.


I'd challenge any guy on here to deny he has at least one "Metro" habit.


I bet you clip your nose hairs, you Metro! Or shave your ears, or the back of your neck. Or shave your back, God help us all for that thought.


How many guys use face lotion after they shave. I do. I'm glad they're finally coming out with some guy-lotion, too, it's about time Gilette caught up with reality.


Even that manly man in the dirty jeans, the one who hasn't shaved in a week, and has his shirt untucked, even that guy shopped around for just the right pair of boots. I bet he tells his friends where he got them, and how much he paid.


And you should see me shopping for a cap! This, dear friends, can take months and months. When I find one I love, I wear it to threads.


Anyway, point is that all guys, save a few outliers who really, genuinely, truly don't care about any part of their appearance, have some degree of pride in the way they present themselves.


They just present that pride in different ways, and to a different breed of woman.


- Saul
Good post.


From my personal observations, you can't be "sorta" metro -- that label is genuinely preserved for men who take it to the limit. I have never had a pedicure or manicure in my life, but I do keep my nails trimmed -- it's good hygiene. I shave regularly, but aside from $6 -$7 facial scrub and aftershave I don't use the litany of products you sometimes find at high-end barbershops. I tend to dress conservatively, but I do have a few wardrobe items where I've stepped outside the box. I also trim myself, because as you get older hair starts to grow in places where it hasn't grown before, and seemingly grows faster(not trying to gross anyone out). I don't iron as much as I used to, but having been in military I can certrainlyiron creases so sharp you'll cut your fingers on them.


In my profession, image can be very important, and the way I dress and "primp" myself is more out of obligation than personal necessity. But otherwise, I do think personal appearance is important.
- January 20th, 2009, 11:26 am
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outlaw, I think you are probably already seeing the trend, but I'll add my opinion too. I am also not keen on the metro male. All that primping and preening I think it suggests a more shallow and maybe even narcissistic personality, not a more sensitive guy.


I am not the type of person that goes to spas and gets professional manicures regularly, so I wouldn't be attracted to a man that does these things more than me--it would make me feel like he is a little to girly for me, even with a well worked-out body.


Me too!


I dated a Metro for about 4 or 5 months and it drove me nuts. Constantly telling me my hair had "no style", or complaining about my nails not being done. He cried constantly (seriously, CONSTANTLY!) until I finally told him to knock it off or take it outside. When he moved into a condo, I had to switch out the deadbolt for him because he had no clue where to even begin. And when the cars broke down, he would drive them to the mechanic, then put ME on the phone to explain what was wrong with it.


Call me a sexist pig, but I can't stand to be more "manly" than the man I'm with.

I dated a Metro for about 4 or 5 months and it drove me nuts. Constantly telling me my hair had "no style", or complaining about my nails not being done. He cried constantly (seriously, CONSTANTLY!) until I finally told him to knock it off or take it outside. When he moved into a condo, I had to switch out the deadbolt for him because he had no clue where to even begin. And when the cars broke down, he would drive them to the mechanic, then put ME on the phone to explain what was wrong with it.





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I'm with the other ladies. I don't know about being more "sensitive" metrosexual is more about primping...hair, fashion....the man-bag. I'm from Chicago where men tend to be a bit more fashionable anyway than where I am now. But do I like it? No, not really. I do like though, when a guy knows how to buy an updated pair of jeans.


I don't know, I went to some outlet stores and found that "updated" pairs of jeans tended be more washed out and filled with more holes than the pairs I have now. Apparently that's the "style." I started laughing when I saw what looked like a barf stain on the back pocket (it was ripped up) on brand new jeans for $80.


I think I have some basic fasion sense but since fashion itself is such an incomprehensible mire I don't think I'll ever become "fashionable." It's also very personal. I've yet to meet two fashion "experts" who agree on the best fashion. They all have their own personal taste and try to find what fits other people (or what they think fits, anyway).


My impression of the "metrosexual" term was not only the fancy clothes and possibly makeup but the Ken Doll feminine look/behavior in a straight guy. Hairless bodies (shaved or not), immaculate hair, thinner musculature, and thick pocketbooks.


I suppose it's like any category, though, in that it varies from person to person.


Either way it doesn't really matter to me; I won't be dating any metrosexuals! Or men of any kind, fake-gay or not =).


Jacquesne


P.S. The other theory is that being a straight guy acting like a gay man is attractive to women because of its unavailability. Psychologically women are attracted to men they can't have; they can imagine the relationship but don't have to fear the consequences because "it won't happen anyway." It's why many women are attracted to gay men. Some metrosexuals use this "instinct" to attract women and then create a "real" relationship out of it. Kinda sneaky, but hey, if they're willing to dress up like frou frou dolls just to attract chicks more power to them!


...and don't forget the 'man-purses'!


I live in NYC and am covered in MS men....if you want a date here you have few choices sometimes. But If I take a walk on the wild side and date men from the burbs or the outskirts of NYC, I can usually avoid MS men.


Not to say that all menfrom NYC are MS...but lately it seems that way. Ergo...my recent fascination for men living in Texas,and the Northwest . And you are right....they are not sensitive men...they tend to be men with very large wallets and totally into themselves!


Blech!.......
Not to say that all men from NYC are MS


You got that right!


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cath817 wrote :

It's a goofy word really...sounds like some sort of romp on the local rail system here in the DC area!
There are too many puns I could make here... it's too easy a target...
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Jim47 wrote :

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outlaw, I think you are probably already seeing the trend, but I'll add my opinion too. I am also not keen on the metro male. All that primping and preening I think it suggests a more shallow and maybe even narcissistic personality, not a more sensitive guy.


I am not the type of person that goes to spas and gets professional manicures regularly, so I wouldn't be attracted to a man that does these things more than me--it would make me feel like he is a little to girly for me, even with a well worked-out body.


Me too!


I dated a Metro for about 4 or 5 months and it drove me nuts. Constantly telling me my hair had "no style", or complaining about my nails not being done. He cried constantly (seriously, CONSTANTLY!) until I finally told him to knock it off or take it outside. When he moved into a condo, I had to switch out the deadbolt for him because he had no clue where to even begin. And when the cars broke down, he would drive them to the mechanic, then put ME on the phone to explain what was wrong with it.


Call me a sexist pig, but I can't stand to be more "manly" than the man I'm with.





I dated a Metro for about 4 or 5 months and it drove me nuts. Constantly telling me my hair had "no style", or complaining about my nails not being done. He cried constantly (seriously, CONSTANTLY!) until I finally told him to knock it off or take it outside. When he moved into a condo, I had to switch out the deadbolt for him because he had no clue where to even begin. And when the cars broke down, he would drive them to the mechanic, then put ME on the phone to explain what was wrong with it.




Actually, this reminds me of a girl I used to date. She was a Southern girly-girl,said similar stuff about this old boyfriend of hers, how he wasn't guy enough for her.


At one point she said to him, "Look, be a man. You wear the pants in this relationship, andI am not gonna fight you for the dress!"


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Great, here's another category that I fit into neither: because I don't exfoliate or wear make-up, but I do try to keep my hair somewhat stylish, and do try to dress fairly nicely (though I'm sure I fail quite a bit). I like football, but am not an athlete. I can fix some things, but not a car. Plus, I just have natural boyish look.
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If you want metrosexual, verging on totally girly-looking, watch the movie "Twilight".... the guys in that movie are sooooooooooooo feminine (probably cos they are wearing a lot of makeup, especially the hearthrob lead male)..... lol.... he still was quite endearing, depsite all the cosmetics (or rather when he wasnt waaring much of them he was.... lol)








Hee hee hee, the bad azz girly-mon vampires! There's a scene where they're all walking into the school cafeteria (which is telling, right there!) and do this lil freeze...ahhh...you know I know I 'm hot thing. ROFL! Is this teen sexy now?
Oh I know exactly the scene you're talking about and that's where the lead vampire looks decidedly girly to me.... hehehe


How is this sexy to teens anywa??? hehehe
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Jim47 wrote :

Not to say that all men from NYC are MS


You got that right!

How many men in NYC are like that (i.e. non-Metro) in your estimation? 10? 50?


By the way, when I was living in Washington Heights, once someone was knocking on my door - I opened it and it was a VERY handsome, masculine firefighter (with those classic Irish good looks), who asked me: "Madam, do you have fire in your apartment?" I wished I had one at that point (Also, remembering Samantha's experience with the Staten Island fireman from Sex and the City...)
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Metrosexual? I know what it means in general parlance, but the etymology wouldhave youbelieve it is someone who has sex with "metros". Prefers to have sex with cities? In cities? It definitely indicates some kind of sexual preference, not physical appearance or personal hygiene habits. Stoopid term, if you ask me.Every time I hear it, I laugh.
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