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Second, what is with this texting stuff. Texting is not real communication. And it will take me more that 5 seconds to send you a text that says only "hi"


As for texting, I don't mean to be rude in anyway about your age, but for my generation, texting is very common and is a form of communication. It also is very convenient...You can also text in class too without getting in trouble
- October 26th, 2009, 10:09 pm
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Dreamsicles wrote :
I refrain myself from calling or being the first to initiate...I know, I know...but I am just conservative in that way and won't pursue anything if the guy isn't interested.
If I were you, I'd want to take charge of my dating life and call an initiate. How can you get what you want if you don't put in some initiative yourself?
- October 27th, 2009, 06:02 am
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Dreamsicles wrote :
So my question is if a guy is interested in you, what are some of the signs?

My theory is that if you like someone, even if you are "busy" you still will have time to text the person (It takes only 5 seconds). In fact, you would want to know what that person is doing, and also would want to share your day with them.
You can tell he is interested because he calls and asks you out.

A five second text is going to be "hi how R U?" Which to me would be grounds for not seeing someone again. (I understand that it's a generational thing, but as a teacher, reading the made-up language and abbreviations just sets my teeth on edge) and then you'll send one back, and then he'll have to send another, and then you'll send one back, and suddenly it's an hour long conversation.

Call him. You've gone out three times; it's your turn to initiate something anyway. Call him and ask him to dinner, or a show or something.

Some guys really hate the phone. I would say in general, far fewer men want to talk on the phone than women. I lived with a man for 8 years, and I think the only time we talked on the phone for more than 5 minutes was when one of us was out of town, and even then the conversations were very short. it wasn't that he didn't love me, he just didn't like the phone. He would, however, IM for hours. Takes all kinds.
- October 27th, 2009, 10:53 am
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Dreamsicles wrote :
So I have been on 3 dates with this guy and although there have been hugs, some holding of hands, there still has been no kiss...not even a little peck. Also, the only time he does call me is to figure out plans for the next date...never to just chat or text me a message how my day went. I do have to say that I give off the girl next door vibe and so forth so maybe he just wants to take it slow? Now, he wouldn't have asked me out if he wasn't interested, right? So my question is if a guy is interested in you, what are some of the signs? I don't want to waste my time with someone who just likes to "hang out". My theory is that if you like someone, even if you are "busy" you still will have time to text the person (It takes only 5 seconds). In fact, you would want to know what that person is doing, and also would want to share your day with them. I refrain myself from calling or being the first to initiate...I know, I know...but I am just conservative in that way and won't pursue anything if the guy isn't interested.

The next question I would have in my mind is...... knowing that he is like this, r u still interested in pursuing a relationship with him???

It sounds like he wants you to do some of the pursuing as well, and if you are used to the guy doing all the pursuing.....this might be the reason why this seems confusing.
- October 27th, 2009, 11:41 am
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Dreamsicles,

I think you need to remember that everyone has a different perspective and he may not even realize you are wanting him to act a certain way.

He sounds just about right to me. I don't text. I don't like to talk on the phone. I usually make the first move for two reasons; I like to see his reaction... If he doesn't like a forward-thinking woman, I'm not for him and I hate that should-Ishouldn't-I look. Good lord... it's just a kiss! If you can't kiss him, maybe you are the girl next door
- October 27th, 2009, 04:02 pm
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D_Lion wrote :

I signal my interest by showing up for the next date.

See how silly that sounds?!
- October 27th, 2009, 04:04 pm
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