Oh, the question was why some guys prefer virgins? I must have read the wrong thread because the question I saw was "Do you prefer virgins or not?" Those are two very different questions!

I would think that would be sort of obvious. If a guy is uncomfortable with his sexual ability he figures a virgin won't know "good" from "bad" sex and assume he's good. Likewise less sexual experience means you don't have to worry about being compared to all the other guys she's been with.

For a personal example my best friend went out with a girl for a couple months who was a mutual friend of ours. She had broken up with her previous boyfriend, who we also knew (and treated her badly but what can you do?) a couple months earlier.

Since she was my friend as well (and I was dating her best friend...you know how that stuff gets complicated, lol) one day she comes up to me and tells me she thinks my best friend is a great guy but he isn't big enough "down there." She brags that her former boyfriend (the jerk) had to wear magnum condoms and my friend just wasn't enough.

Needless to say this made an impression. I understand that this behavior is in the minority (and was technically psychological on her part) and I never told my friend about it, even after they broke up, but I'll never forget the shock of such shallow behavior.

Now I have to wonder...is any girl with "experience" I date going to be thinking that sort of thing when I'm with her? Thinking I'm a great guy but not as good in bed as her last boyfriend?

I suppose this fear could apply to both genders but that wasn't the question...it's specifically asking guys why they think the way they do. With a virgin I can be reasonably certain she isn't comparing me to previous boyfriends. I assume the same thought process happens to women when they're concerned an "experienced" boyfriend is comparing their body to previous girls they've been with. It hurts your confidence.

Then of course there's the guys who just want to put another notch on their belt. A virgin is a bigger "challenge" because she hasn't given to anyone else already. While being a non-virgin doesn't make someone promiscuous the implied mentality is that a virgin must be difficult to "score" because no one has done it before. And unfortunately I know guys who think like this. Since this line of thinking is so foreign to guys who actually like women they can easily forget it's out there.

Other reasons include social norms and possessiveness ("she's only been mine!") but those are the two biggest reasons. I won't go into why women would or would not like a virgin because I honestly don't know what they think about it (and, just like men, it's going to vary from person to person).

If you wanted that question answered you should have just said so in the first place. Gotta know what you want!

Jacquesne