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Because it is neither here nor there.
- November 1st, 2009, 06:10 pm
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Some guy in another thread claimed taking a virgin was the holy grail for some young men. So the reasons for that were the whole impetus behind starting the thread froggy. ;p~
- November 1st, 2009, 06:23 pm
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Hmmm..... I'm of two minds on this. I am personally a 25 year old virgin and from my experience, that scares a lot of guys away. It can be frustrating when it turns men off if you are honest with them so I can relate to not telling them. Honestly, it's kind of embarrassing at my age to still not have had sex. I don't think that every girl who's a virgin is going to be so emotionally involved... I've had friends who just lost it to lose it and they've never been attached. I think first love is far more powerful than first lover.
- November 1st, 2009, 06:55 pm
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nightling wrote :
and somehow no one really addresses why being a virgin would be the holy grail to a young guy ...

Ask any Islamist......
- November 1st, 2009, 07:23 pm
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It's a fair desire to want to be your partner's first - provided you bring the same to the table.

Somehow, I doubt this is what the "man in another thread" meant.
- November 1st, 2009, 07:32 pm
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Islam are not the only pious people.
- November 1st, 2009, 07:34 pm
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Two years ago, I dated the "40 year old virgin", I had absolutely no idea until the act, then it became Oh-So-Obvious. He was 43 at the time and completely inexperienced. I didn't want to hurt his feelings, so I never came right out and asked, but I can assure the reading audience, there was no doubt he had never been "all the way" with a woman before.

The fact that he was a virgin was neither here nor there to me, it was that he was not a good student. I tried gentle suggestions, I tried sitting down and talking with him, but in the end he was only interested in "gettin' in there and gettin' 'er done" (for himself). After a couple of months of complete frustration, I broke it off with him. I felt bad about it, but sheesh - the guy was making me crazy!
- November 1st, 2009, 07:56 pm
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Gumbee wrote :
he was only interested in "gettin' in there and gettin' 'er done" (for himself).
I think a guy like this would make me feel like I am a pr0stitute doing charity involuntarily.
- November 1st, 2009, 08:11 pm
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Most of the Posts (with one exception) are addressing the issue of the woman being the virgin.

In my early 40s I went on a date with a man who was so nervous his hands were shaking! And that was just during the lunch we had.

I'm sure he was a virgin, if he was that nervous at just having lunch with a woman. A mutual acquaintance later told me he'd never had a girlfriend.

The whole idea just creeps me out.

I hate to say it, but past a certain age, if a man has no experience, he should go to a prostitute and get some!
- November 1st, 2009, 08:29 pm
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6dle899 wrote :
I was in a relationship with a woman for a few months this year, (met on EH btw) that told me, (that at age 51 with 3 adult children!!!) with bright shiny eyes she was a BORN-AGAIN virgin.

And holding out for "the rock":

To this, I countered with TWO things:

1. This "gift" is usually of more value to the "GIVER" than to the "GIFTED".

2. In a relationship that is serious (this one was becoming that) a couple should be compatible in ALL. respects, and to me personally, SEX is not the LEAST important of these.

She remain unmoved.

Soon thereafter, I called it quits and moved on.

I wish her good luck; <----- with THAT zeitgeist, she will really need it.
I'm sorry.....I know I shouldn't.....But I just can't help laughing at this!
- November 1st, 2009, 08:31 pm
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