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I was in a relationship with a woman for a few months this year, (met on EH btw) that told me, (that at age 51 with 3 adult children!!!) with bright shiny eyes she was a BORN-AGAIN virgin.

And holding out for "the rock":

To this, I countered with TWO things:

1. This "gift" is usually of more value to the "GIVER" than to the "GIFTED".


2. In a relationship that is serious (this one was becoming that) a couple should be compatible in ALL. respects, and to me personally, SEX is not the LEAST important of these.



She remain unmoved.


Soon thereafter, I called it quits and moved on.


I wish her good luck; <----- with THAT zeitgeist, she will really need it.
What the heck is 'the rock'? God? An engagement ring? The wrestler Dwayne Johnson? All 3?
- November 1st, 2009, 09:34 pm
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6dle899 wrote :
I was in a relationship with a woman for a few months this year, (met on EH btw) that told me, (that at age 51 with 3 adult children!!!) with bright shiny eyes she was a BORN-AGAIN virgin.

And holding out for "the rock":

To this, I countered with TWO things:

1. This "gift" is usually of more value to the "GIVER" than to the "GIFTED".


2. In a relationship that is serious (this one was becoming that) a couple should be compatible in ALL. respects, and to me personally, SEX is not the LEAST important of these.



She remain unmoved.


Soon thereafter, I called it quits and moved on.


I wish her good luck; <----- with THAT zeitgeist, she will really need it.
Haha!!
I so agree, especially regarding #1!
- November 1st, 2009, 10:06 pm
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What the heck is 'the rock'? God? An engagement ring? The wrestler Dwayne Johnson? All 3?
Now, all 3 *would* be a zeitgeist!

Do you think she'll be waiting long?
- November 1st, 2009, 10:18 pm
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I think that virginity is only as important as you make it. If it's a big deal to you that you're a virgin (or that your partner is a virgin)...then it's going to be a big deal in the relationship.

That goes for a lot of things...
- November 1st, 2009, 10:21 pm
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nightling wrote :
Some guy in another thread claimed taking a virgin was the holy grail for some young men. So the reasons for that were the whole impetus behind starting the thread froggy. ;p~
I mentioned that in the other thread as a follow-up to some other posts. Some young men just like scoring virgins, this isn't a new development. Just ask the woman that auctioned off her virginity for a million dollars but received a bid for over 3 million. Crazy I know.

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http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...tml#post783930

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... so rather than hijack it we're doing this.
But that's half the fun ...
- November 1st, 2009, 10:49 pm
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neither. dating a virgin is like playing russian roulette.
- November 1st, 2009, 11:39 pm
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Scene from "The Virginator.":

"I'll be back..."

Of course, we know he's lying.

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Never bothered me. My first was her first. My second was her first. In between those two, I dated a girl who was a virgin, and she wanted to lose it with me, but I didn't feel it was the right time.

Before I got married, I attached a pretty high value to the act of sex. I'd only been with five women, I think (?), and they were all long-term, or at least had some emotional attachment, and I married one of them.

After you're about 30, though, it's a moot question. Only the rarest of rares is still a virgin, and the emotional attachment to sex is not as profound.

You become attached for reasons having nothing at all to do with sex.


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- November 2nd, 2009, 06:18 am
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jayjay wrote :
What the heck is 'the rock'? God? An engagement ring? The wrestler Dwayne Johnson? All 3?

Oh no. I am a pervert. It's official.

I was thinking she was waiting on a shipment of viagra.

Gotta have the right tools for the job kinda thing.
- November 2nd, 2009, 06:47 am
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- November 2nd, 2009, 07:54 am
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