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From your physical connection to the "exclusivity" status of a relationship, learn how to broach even the most sensitive subjects with ease!
- December 11th, 2008, 02:39 pm
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Good article! Honesty from the start is the best policy for sure!!
- December 11th, 2008, 02:39 pm
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I just had this talk with a man I just started seeing ( a month) and he brought it up, which made me soooo happy. We are probably moving quickly, by other peoples standards. I am comfortable with it, but scared all at the same time.... he expressed that he is scared of getting hurt... but who isn't? (I guess this is what scared me)I guess itwill take time for him to get toknow me and visa versa... I haven't been in a"new start" for a while and am scared I am going to do or say something to screw this up...
- December 11th, 2008, 05:47 pm
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I would add that it is not necessary to chose a moment, sit down and dump the entire "talk" at one time. From my experience, men in particular are not comfortable with that approach. In the very early stages of dating much can be communicated through your behavior. Intimacy issues can be addressed bit by bit as moments arise that make them a natural and comfortable topic of conversation. You don't need to be completely serious about tackling these issues, either. There are ways to discuss them in an honest, but light-hearted manner. No need to make this into an arduous and onerous task.
- December 11th, 2008, 08:41 pm
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My new mate and I just had this talk a week ago today! He came over to my place for the first time to watch a movie and we ended up having "the talk" while getting cozy on the couch together. We ended up staying up most of the night talking, kissing, talking, hugging, talking, talking, talking!I can't tell you how important this moment was in our relationship becuse I wasn't getting any signals from him that he wanted things to be more intimate until we had this talk. I learned he had recently been "burnt" by a woman who became offended becuase he wanted to hold her hand in the movie theater so this made him a little "trigger shy" with me. This night was going to be the night I would decide whether or not we had a future together or not.We are exclusive now and have established a connection on many levels.
- December 12th, 2008, 07:18 am
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last12C wrote :

I would add that it is not necessary to chose a moment, sit down and dump the entire "talk" at one time. From my experience, men in particular are not comfortable with that approach. In the very early stages of dating much can be communicated through your behavior. Intimacy issues can be addressed bit by bit as moments arise that make them a natural and comfortable topic of conversation. You don't need to be completely serious about tackling these issues, either. There are ways to discuss them in an honest, but light-hearted manner. No need to make this into an arduous and onerous task.
This is better than the original article.Well done!
- December 12th, 2008, 07:58 am
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I wish I had this article, 5 years ago, or more. Heck, I wish, I had it on paper, on my desk, now. But I've some how always known, that intimacy isn't purely physical, but a mental connection. And I'm glad that it's not confirmed.
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