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A relationship can get muddled and off-kilter when a couple allows one aspect (most often, the physical) to get far ahead of the other aspects!
- March 23rd, 2009, 10:38 pm
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Gah.. wow. yeah not going there... way too complicated.
- March 23rd, 2009, 10:38 pm
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eharmonyadvice, wrote :

A relationship can get muddled and off-kilter when a couple allows one aspect (most often, the physical) to get far ahead of the other aspects!
Yes, the relationship can become way off-balance. There are so many aspects that go into a cohesive relationship. Unfortunately today's society places the emphasis on the physical, sexual side. There are a mulitude ofavenues inthe relationship to explore and work together on, and yet they tend to fall to the wayside, and this can ultimately lead to the destruction of what could have been a wonderful partnership had the physical not been the primary focus.
- March 23rd, 2009, 11:09 pm
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I've gotten myself in trouble in a few relationships because the physical aspect took a higher priority than the others. I know that all too well. Definitely have to pace yourself. I think if you put the other aspects in their proper priority, the sexual aspect may actually get better.
- March 23rd, 2009, 11:15 pm
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The question on this thread doesn't seem to be the exact topic of the associated article...but sure, I think many areas can become overemphasized in a relationship and must be balanced. For example, a couple who work together or have a business together can focus on this too much. The sexual aspect of a relationship can also be too dominant, probably especially if people aren't good at relating on other levels. In a relationship I just go by how things feel as to whether the balance needs to be adjusted.
- March 24th, 2009, 05:33 am
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What are you supposed to do when you have allowed the physical (sexual ) aspects to move ahead of other aspects? Is there a method to navigating through this?
- March 31st, 2009, 06:16 pm
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The solution is to not throttle great sex, but to be sure the other aspects keep pace.
- March 31st, 2009, 06:54 pm
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