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Love is one of life's most intense emotions, and when you are in lust it's easy to think you are feeling love -- but the two are very different!
- April 9th, 2009, 09:42 am
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"IsLove physical or emotional?"


My best guess is that it's physical for a man...since a woman's face and body are usually the first things we notice. The only time emotionalism comes into play is after a man has had the chance to talk to and interact with a member of the fairer sex which often takes time!


However, I honestly believe that it's a combination of the 2 for a woman? During my 'daily dog walks with Misty', I've been privvy to various female conversations.Women will often combine male sexiness along with his ability to carry on a conversation.


And there are the 'few outspoken females'who...because of being hurt in the past...aren't afraid to share theirnegative feelings about us as well!


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- April 9th, 2009, 09:43 am
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You forgot the "like stage". I would say "Lust" and "Like" had to come first.
- April 9th, 2009, 09:52 am
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For me, the path to love begins with intellectual chemistry.


Meaningful conversation is the first step to building a solid relationship. If I can talk to a man, about anything, and I feel like we're bonding, then I will continue to invest emotionally.


The physical attraction is icing on the cake!


However, if we have nothing substantial to say to each other, and I still think he's hot, it can only be lust.
- April 9th, 2009, 08:09 pm
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For me, the path to love begins with intellectual chemistry.


Meaningful conversation is the first step to building a solid relationship. If I can talk to a man, about anything, and I feel like we're bonding, then I will continue to invest emotionally.


The physical attraction is icing on the cake!


However, if we have nothing substantial to say to each other, and I still think he's hot, it can only be lust.
Couldn't have said it any better myself .
- April 10th, 2009, 08:57 am
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tbesq wrote :



For me, the path to love begins with intellectual chemistry.


Meaningful conversation is the first step to building a solid relationship. If I can talk to a man, about anything, and I feel like we're bonding, then I will continue to invest emotionally.


The physical attraction is icing on the cake!


However, if we have nothing substantial to say to each other, and I still think he's hot, it can only be lust.


Couldn't have said it any better myself .
Thanks!
- April 10th, 2009, 11:54 am
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For me, the path to love begins with intellectual chemistry.


Meaningful conversation is the first step to building a solid relationship. If I can talk to a man, about anything, and I feel like we're bonding, then I will continue to invest emotionally.


The physical attraction is icing on the cake!


However, if we have nothing substantial to say to each other, and I still think he's hot, it can only be lust.
Perfectly stated.
- May 19th, 2009, 06:30 pm
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What a shallow and misleading article! I hoped for better from eHarmony. A statement such as, "Lust is what first brings people together. It’s that initial desire to be with the person..." Lust is *one* thing that brings people together, but hardly the only thing, nor the best thing. In years of counseling I have found it to be the least reliable and sustainable type of attraction. This article totally ignored the more significant and substantial factors in strong relationships: shared values, common interests, the maturity to invest in someone for non-selfish reasons, etc. Truly strong and fulfilling relationships only develop over time and with much give-and-take, struggling through life's challenges together, and championing one another even when we aren't "hot to trot." My most succinct advice, proven over many years, is "Marry a friend." 


 

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Granite wrote :
What a shallow and misleading article! I hoped for better from eHarmony. A statement such as, "Lust is what first brings people together. It’s that initial desire to be with the person..." Lust is *one* thing that brings people together, but hardly the only thing, nor the best thing. In years of counseling I have found it to be the least reliable and sustainable type of attraction. This article totally ignored the more significant and substantial factors in strong relationships: shared values, common interests, the maturity to invest in someone for non-selfish reasons, etc. Truly strong and fulfilling relationships only develop over time and with much give-and-take, struggling through life's challenges together, and championing one another even when we aren't "hot to trot." My most succinct advice, proven over many years, is "Marry a friend."

Kind-a boring don't you think? Lust wins out 9 out of 10 encounters, can you think of anything else that will leave you smiling the next day?

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- June 10th, 2009, 11:55 pm
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What's wrong with just beingin lust?
- June 11th, 2009, 02:29 pm
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