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What do the stories you tell others say about you? Get the details on how you may be revealing your greatest strengths and personal challenges in what you say.
- June 1st, 2007, 09:00 am
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I think my experience raising children as a parent and educating them as career in education comes across early in my conversations. Also, my attitudes about healthy living, strong family ties and love of work is communicated. I am humble about my accomplishments, so my partner needs to ask direct questions to get an idea of my true essence.
- June 9th, 2007, 02:58 pm
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I think most stories that are told with humor and humility say a lot about a person. Explaining how a special hike makes you feel expresses your spiritual side as well. By all means, let the other person tell their stories too - they have also had a lifetime of experiences - and you want to learn about them as well.
- June 10th, 2007, 03:48 pm
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at parties, with strangers, I have told people I am a florist. Or a poet.
and the stories they tell me in return delve into their creativity, dreams,
and appreciation of beauty,. Sure beats what happens when I tell the truth.
- June 14th, 2007, 03:30 pm
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I am thinking about this topic from sitting and listening intently for the 3rd hour of a man drone on about his ex wives drug habits, his selfish stories, his all about me statements. To no avail can I get the conversation steered to sunnier sharing experiences...I have no problems sharing, and being whitty, I love expressing my experiences, to give a glimpse inside of me. I am a visual, senses, and humor oriented person. I want a person that will tell the truth, leave out the baggage, I want to know what we have in common. That is where the sharing comes in.
- July 14th, 2007, 11:20 pm
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I believe that what you don't tell has more to say about how you are feeling than what you do tell. Everyone is a little tense while trying to "put their best foot forward." if your best stories start tumbling from your lips, you are starting to relax and become intimate. What a great feeling it is to be loved for who you really are!

Thanks for the advice.
- July 17th, 2007, 12:24 am
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I think really listening to someone and being interested in who they are is the best gift you can give. As a writer, I love a great story: How people interpret day-to-day life; Interactions with friends, family or coworkers; That really cool trip they took over the summer or that book that inspired them to quit their job as a stock broker and pursue life as a struggling artists. However, I'm turned off by a person who rambles on about themselves without asking me a single question. Telling my own life experiences is difficult in the beginning. I'm a bit reserved when I first meet someone and I open up more during the sharing process. That's why I think it's important for both people to ask questions and show interest (not just pretend to listen while thinking about what to say next). It will put both partners at ease.
- July 21st, 2007, 04:02 am
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I tell stories alot when I am dating. I lean more towards using stories to make a point than specific examples. THis is especially true when discussing difficult topics. I find it is easier to provide more information using the story as a learning tool than trying to articulate exactly what I am thinking.

I like when a companion shares in the same way. I am not a fan of this dialog "Hello my names fill in the blank I cook, I clean, I have a great personality, I like pina coladas and getting caught in the rain." I am more of a thought provoking person, please tell me about yoursaelf and share but do it where I have the oportunity to ask questions. Please do not hit me in the head with a rolling pin of information and expect me to respond with great information. I won't I like to get to know the real person not the sales pitch. I like putting in the work to learn about someone from there life experience, the way someone handles a situation tells volumes about their personality and their descision making skills. Both very important!!
- July 23rd, 2007, 06:11 pm
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hi judy:

What happens if you meet someone who never has had children? He will be bored out of his sockets and ready to leave in the first 15 minutes. children would be an interesting topic only if the man you are dating has children and he can relate to your topic about kids.
- July 23rd, 2007, 11:52 pm
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I tend to find that most times I'm listening more then talking. It's true you can learn a ton from listening. Being a screenwriter & filmmaker learning about people & there stories allows one to write/create characters who are three dimensional & real. When I do tell stories, I both tell true stories about my life experiences as well as ideas for scripts & short stories. I find that others tend to love listening to my true accounts as they tend to be delivered in a very humorous narrative style. I like to make people laugh, though if needed I can make a person cry or squirm. Also of note being in a wheelchair I find on meeting strangers for the 1st time, a lot of people will tell me right off the bat a deep secret or other personal info. I think this is because my personal baggage so to say is obvious that they feel this somehow equals things out. It a very interesting thing & something I would love to see a study of. People also tend to want to always ask me the #1 question "How did you get paralyzed" or other questions about my condition. I warn people only ask questions you really want to know the answers to cause at this point in my life I tend to be brutally honest with these questions. Exception is when children ask me questions then I explain it at a level that I feel that the child will understand. I have had children as young as 2-3 ask me how/why I'm in a chair. I never it get bothered by children asking me questions though I have watched many a parent squirm at their child doing it...never be! A childes curiosity is a wonderful thing and should never be squashed. Peace, Brett
- July 26th, 2007, 08:10 pm
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