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In those beginning stages of love, it's easy to overlook abnormal behavior. Wonder whether you should stick it out or run the other way? Here are five red flags that should signal the end of your relationship.
- January 19th, 2008, 01:13 am
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I lived with this. I did not grow in the relationship. I did survive. Good warning. I am not sure that it would have helped me at the time I became involved. I like to think that one can be helped with a warning. Friends are important. So everyone should read this. That way we may be able to help a friend.
- January 19th, 2008, 01:13 am
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It's great to know that there's now a reference to re-read!!

Ended a relationship in which all but one of these was present. He had NO friends. He would say he did, but in 20 months I only met one couple- of which I am closer to them than he is. I just wish that I could warn EVERY woman that will be interested in him. Hopefully they will have read something like this before they get too involved.
- January 19th, 2008, 07:11 am
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The Ex in the picture can actually signal that someone is mature and can still be friends (without benefits) with those who indeed were soul mates. Personally I would worry more about someone who has had some ugly ending to almost every past relationship!
- January 19th, 2008, 06:39 pm
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After many years of being alone, I was recently in a new relationship and fortunately, I read something similar to this a while ago and was able to see the flags and halt all actions. Assuredly, it has saved me some time and spared many tears. Please note the signs.
- January 19th, 2008, 09:23 pm
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Ex in the picture, especially without kids, and with nothing but venom attached is bad news. You may one day be that ex.

Lies, even worse, those with rose colored glasses, like I wore don't see them coming till they pile up. And when you're sitting on a mountain, you don't have a relationship anymore.

Friends are a reflection on ourselves, our inner nature, and our enjoyment in our spare time. Like the old adage goes, you can pick your friends....
- January 19th, 2008, 10:06 pm
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Love is never having to say "Get a Life!". We all have demands of our time that must be met, i.e. job, kids, family, friends. But have you ever had a mate who is constantly waiting for you to finish what you're doing, so you can return to doing nothing with them. And they never have anything to do! If you are ambitious, responsible, and independent, look for these same qualities. And if you don't find them, lose him.
- January 20th, 2008, 02:06 am
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This is a good article. I think honesty is such an important tell tale sign. The greatest advice here is to be cautious. Only when I rushed love did I stay in a relationship longer than I should have because I wasnt willing to take heed to these red flags.
- January 20th, 2008, 03:29 am
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Was this article ever timely! I was just having second thoughts about ending a long-distance relationship with someone who told me a whopper of a lie for no reason. The gentleman explained several months of no communication with me by saying that his mother had died. It took two years for the truth to come out. Now I'm coping with the loss of what I thought was a growing friendship. Thankfully, your article is helping me bite the bullet and move on. If he told that one for no good reason, what would he do later?
- January 20th, 2008, 09:42 am
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its very difficult for me to label some of these behaviors because I am not a date pro and I do want a ,certain, match to work these days. Th e questionable content is as followa and bear in mind its throwing up flags in my mind , however there seems qualitieis to the person here that outwiegh this stuff?: 1) She initiated the match! when I told her i was intigued by this fact she said simply "I did? " i though little of this but wonder if its not part of a bigger pic. 2)We have been chatting since 9/07,I asked and she said she would like to meet sometime ,this was in say ..11/07 and she stated that when she came to this town(we are 75 mi apart) to christmas shop we would meet! OK with me ! didnt happen ! no big deal , I guess! So being not pushy I let it go awhile before bringing it up again to meet , did not bring up the previous failed plan. Actually it was after Christmas when I asked her if she yet was interested in meeting and she said yes soon and that life will be slowing down soon also! what if anything does this mean? Often in our emails she will not reply for a few days and when she does she neglects to answer most questions I ask I have to ask 2/3 times just to force an answer about common stuff like what do you do in a week to relaxetc. She has asked these things of me and I promptly reply ! Additionnaly it seems her replies are short and pointlessly repetitive , form letter like , made me make sure my name was typed in the body of message etc. I n summary It seems I should move on what do you all think?
- January 20th, 2008, 10:21 am
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