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You know the saying: a picture is worth a thousand words, so why do so many people post unflattering or misleading photos? Learn how to put your best face forward and we guarantee many clicks in return.
- December 7th, 2007, 11:58 pm
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What if we're just plain unphotogenic? Are we supposed to get a professional make-over before posting photos? I don't expect that we'd post a photo of us getting out of bed in the morning, or taken after a long and hard days work...but really! What about those of us who just don't fit the stereo-type of beauty/good-looks? While I know that physical attraction is a real thing, are eharmony subscribers who pay good money to be on the site, and who need help in finding a mate because they can't find one on their own, so bold and cocky to close off someone because of a photo??? What about all the other qualities sooooo crucial to a good relationship??? For my part, I am usually attracted to a man's brain, his sense of humour, his manners, whether he's cultured or not....PLEASE fellow-subscribers, let's be more mature than this - after all, aren't we in this thing looking for the best match possible...and not the best-looking match possible?!
- December 8th, 2007, 05:43 am
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I think you are looking at this from the wrong perspective. Physical attraction IS important in a relationship. I'm not saying that a photo speaks a thousand words...i.e. don't judge a book by its cover...but come on...if someone isn't attracted to you get over it. I've had matches that I'm sure weren't attracted to me and they closed the match. We are biological organisms. In nature the weak animals aren't considered to be good mates because of the lack of survival skills. We are the same way. Don't take it so personally. This is not high school and whether or not you are the prom queen or king doesn't matter. I don't overlook someone's attributes over their photo...don't get me wrong...but it's important to be attracted to someone. That's basic biology.
- December 16th, 2007, 08:20 am
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I agree with eHarmony's suggestions about photos. I think that a well-crafted bio, including good photos is reflective of a person's sense of self-worth. Because I value myself, I value how thoughtfully I'm presenting myself. Would we do a resume with typos or inappropriate content? I don't consider myself photogenic and that's exactly why I asked a wedding photographer friend to do my "headshot" -- she took a bunch of photos and I chose the one I liked best, which as eHarmony suggests was the one with the biggest smile, even though it clearly showed my less-than-perfectly-even teeth. A fresh face isn't a false face, it's putting our best foot forward. Also, I've learned how to "follow the directions" rather than ignore them, as I've done in the past! I think that's part of what makes me a good catch.
- December 16th, 2007, 12:32 pm
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I think photos are really important. I don't usually respond or address someone that doesn't have a photograph. It makes me feel a little suspicious. One profile had all group photos with the same group of guys. I had not idea who i was matched with! I agree with the article when they say to post explanations with your picture. Are those women in the picture your friends, co-workers, or some girls you are trying to pick up. Also, having different shots is helpful so i can get a sense of what they really look like.
- December 17th, 2007, 12:11 am
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Tell me how this request a photo works? Does that mean they have a photograph but it was not posted? Some don't leave you the option to request a photo. Did I miss something?
I think photographs are important and I agree with the 7 things to do before posting a photo,
The one that turns me off is a guy with a woman and they have there arms around each other. so is it a friend, former spouse or his sister and thre is no explanation.
- December 30th, 2007, 06:21 am
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I need help on how to literally download my photos. That would really be helpful.
- January 5th, 2008, 06:16 pm
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Thanks for the advice.......absolutely agree....that is why my next picture will be better ))
- January 10th, 2008, 04:13 am
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What if you just don't take a good photo? Really, I mean it.(I know I'm not bad looking, because I've been told many times how great I look. But, I'll be dammed if I can take a good photo.) My daughter asked why is it your so pretty but you'd never know by looking at some of the pictures we've taken over the years! should you go to a "professional"? Please give me some suggestions
- January 13th, 2008, 08:52 pm
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To "nudge" someone into posting a picture, simply click the area where the picture should be and they will be notified.
- January 19th, 2008, 11:40 am
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