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MQRegan wrote :
Interesting observation on the compassion part. But what does that have to do with a phone number before meeting?

I don't write the e-mails, just paste em. :/
Sorry, I wasn't referring to the phone number. I made that comment because I thought you said you preferred not to drive further than midpoint. But given her current situation I think you should make an exception. I would if a date were in the same situation.

I know you didn't write the emails. I just think it's strange when people say irregardless
- November 4th, 2009, 03:48 pm
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I'll weigh in on the being reluctant to give a number... have done that before on the first couple of dates from online. Also did the emailing for several weeks thing too - just to feel more comfortable. Driving to a meeting spot and not giving a number just keeps a bit of security if you're concerned about meeting a total stranger. They don't know where you live, and you won't have them calling you if you don't want them having access to your life. I know, they can still email, but you don't have to open it. If they have your number and you randomly pick up when the phone rings and they're on it, and you don't want to talk to them, you're caught with this person on the other line.... Was it her that kept it at email all this time? Is she new to this?
- November 4th, 2009, 04:03 pm
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I get both of you on the reasoning, but consider this. We setup a time to meet. I get there, she e-mails me a half hour earlier and says she cannot make it. So I am sitting there waiting for her when she is not coming. How is that right? I get the distance thing along with the medical issue, I can see that. But leaving without a number in case something comes up at the last moment is a bit fishy to me. Amazing on how these things seem to happen at the last moment. Get my drift?

Not sure about how long she's done the online thing. She's 30, so I imagine that she has.
- November 4th, 2009, 04:23 pm
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If she's nervous about meeting people this way, she might not give a number regardless. And you're right - she might not show. Could be she's that immature. Give her your number and tell her it's in case she isn't able to make it. If you drive, and she doesn't show, it would be inconvenient, but not a huge investment lost. I guess you just hang around for a bit and head home. Or, just don't meet her at all if you're feeling a little resentful about this already. Sometimes not fun dating this way, is it.....
- November 4th, 2009, 04:29 pm
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She already has my number. She replied and said we should talk but was slammed with school deadlines to finish and replied with her e-mail. This one is a hard one. See if she agrees on another day and then ask for her number I guess. If she still says no, will say I can see your hesitant, and I can agree to an extent, but I can see it just is not going to play out right.
- November 4th, 2009, 04:57 pm
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MQRegan wrote :
She already has my number. She replied and said we should talk but was slammed with school deadlines to finish and replied with her e-mail. This one is a hard one. See if she agrees on another day and then ask for her number I guess. If she still says no, will say I can see your hesitant, and I can agree to an extent, but I can see it just is not going to play out right.


That's probably the best thing to do what you said there. Try for another day and its time to go all in and ask for the number at least. Its been long enough to where its time to try because if you get stonewalled again or something comes up just forget it. You'll go mad. Just fold it and move on.

I had someone drive me crazy once like this almost exactly, only we exchanged numbers after a couple emails and we texted quite a lot in the time we met online. Then I'd get mixed signals and excuses and enough was enough. It obviously was another loss and I just gave up, if she was really interested and wanted to make this attempt then she would have done it, but if they are hesitating forget it, and later on as my luck would have it they finally told me there was another person IN the picture still and she was just "looking" I couldn't believe it but then again with my rotten luck.
- November 4th, 2009, 05:09 pm
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CaptCrunch23 wrote :
Actually, I would respond with my phone number..That way she knows who is calling. She will also have it saved in an email. Voicemails can sound scratchy or mumbled, numbers can get mixed up etc... just limits the room for error or even an excuse!

Personally I don't pick up calls from numbers I am not familiar with.
I agree about the voice mail.

However, when my phone rings I pick it up and say hello. If it was someone that I don't want to talk to I just hang up the phone.
- November 4th, 2009, 09:22 pm
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MQRegan wrote :
She already has my number. She replied and said we should talk but was slammed with school deadlines to finish and replied with her e-mail. This one is a hard one. See if she agrees on another day and then ask for her number I guess. If she still says no, will say I can see your hesitant, and I can agree to an extent, but I can see it just is not going to play out right.
Sounds reasonable since she really does seem to be waffling. Have to keep us posted on how it plays out.
- November 4th, 2009, 09:38 pm
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She e-mailed me back this morning saying she's busy for the rest of the weekend. Suggests that we'll setup another time to meet another weekend. Guess she took the declined Saturday night suggestion not too well. Can't help I already have plans.
- November 5th, 2009, 12:51 pm
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