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Just wondering. I bet this topic has been covered a million times. I have 14 matches open right now but none of them have started a conversation. Are they not interested or shy? Is it ok for the woman to start a conversation?
- August 15th, 2008, 02:00 pm
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I don't think it matters who initiates first. Usually if I'm interested right away I'll go ahead and initiate first. If I'm not sure then I'll just leave the match open and see if she decides to start communication. Either way is fine with me.
- August 15th, 2008, 02:56 pm
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I'm new too and can't find any info on the site about communicating. I notice there are numbers (1, 2, 3 and 4) in the list of matchesbut I have no idea what this means. It would be really helpful if there were instructions or some sort of guide on the site about the steps of communicating on e-Harmony.
- August 15th, 2008, 04:05 pm
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Glad you asked~ I'm on day three of eH and have encountered the same "problem". I've decided to initiate first each time, my reasoning being that it's usually during the workday and since I haven't started back to school yet, I'm home. Hope that's the right decision...


I'll be watching this discussion...
- August 15th, 2008, 09:10 pm
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Yes this is a very popular topic but we can go over it again, not a problem.


It is fine for the woman to begin communication. Most guys would welcome this and any that would not you really probably would not be interested in anyway. If a guy was put off by the girl starting the communication then he is going to be controlling in all decision making.


Now about your matches not having started communication yet. There could be any number of reasons but the most likely one is that they are not paying members therefore they cannot communicate. Get used to matches that do not communicate, a large percentage of your matches will be non-paying members and will not communicate.


By the way welcome to the Advice boards.
- August 15th, 2008, 09:19 pm
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :

Yes this is a very popular topic but we can go over it again, not a problem.


It is fine for the woman to begin communication. Most guys would welcome this and any that would not you really probably would not be interested in anyway. If a guy was put off by the girl starting the communication then he is going to be controlling in all decision making.


Now about your matches not having started communication yet. There could be any number of reasons but the most likely one is that they are not paying members therefore they cannot communicate. Get used to matches that do not communicate, a large percentage of your matches will be non-paying members and will not communicate.


By the way welcome to the Advice boards.
Thanks!


That's frustrating to hear about the non-paying members being matched...sort of seems like it sends the wrong message~ especially to "newbies" who haven't been around the block (yet!)
- August 15th, 2008, 09:26 pm
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CoteDuRhone wrote :

smichal, wrote :


Just wondering. I bet this topic has been covered a million times. I have 14 matches open right now but none of them have started a conversation. Are they not interested or shy? Is it ok for the woman to start a conversation?


I am new as well, and don't plan on initiating a conversation. If someone is interested, they will. If not, initiation from me will not make a difference.
Ummm, what if your match is thinking the exact same thing?
- August 15th, 2008, 09:28 pm
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I would like to know more about the comment made concerning some viewers not being registered and unable to communicate.
- August 15th, 2008, 09:31 pm
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fiestynfun wrote :

Ummm, what if your match is thinking the exact same thing?
... Then Warren is laughing all his way to the bank with their money.
- August 15th, 2008, 10:54 pm
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Larson wrote :

fiestynfun wrote :


Ummm, what if your match is thinking the exact same thing?


... Then Warren is laughing all his way to the bank with their money.
Exactly~ although I'm beginning to wonder if he's not already doing that!
- August 16th, 2008, 06:40 pm
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